tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44286059092072378312024-03-13T08:33:28.029+09:00Korean Gender Café 한국 젠더 카페We aim to initiate discussions between Koreans and foreigners about gender in Korean society.
한국인과 외국인에 대한도 한국사회의 젠더이슈에 대해 블로그를 이야기를 하려합니다.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15430527755748960342noreply@blogger.comBlogger99125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-84834810499716844862015-04-16T11:43:00.001+09:002015-04-16T11:43:15.437+09:00Magic Mike XXL Trailer - My ReactionI just watched the Magic Mike XXL trailer:<br />
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This movie trailer treats me like Magic Mike's moves might erase my memory. I am sure that I can remember that the title is not just LARGE, it is Magic Mike XXL.<br />
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I don't need a power tool thrust to help me remember. Nor do I need that water bottle to stand in as ejaculate to understand that this film will try to emphasize sexual tension. But, you know, points for clarity, I guess *^.~*<br />
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But this begs the question, is there a Female Gaze? I feel like you're telling me where and how to look, Magic Mike.<br />
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So... basically, my body is metaphorically made into a machine, Joe shoots in my face, Mike pulls my hair... and this is supposed to be erotic for female consumers of this film? This and 50 Shades of Gray are our mainstream and popular sex stories?<br />
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I guess I don’t hate it that much, I’m just disappointed. This really isn’t creative.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-36392292468031021272014-09-14T00:56:00.002+09:002014-09-14T15:41:52.795+09:00Gender, Sex and Politics in Korea: What the Saenuri Party really meant by "Prepared Woman President" The Park Administration <a href="http://asiancorrespondent.com/122146/south-koreas-president-apologizes-over-sewol-ferry-tragedy/">response</a> to the Sewol sinking was absolutely inadequate. <a href="http://english.hani.co.kr/arti/english_edition/e_national/655011.html">Protests</a> and <a href="http://www.asianews.it/news-en/Hundreds-of-people-on-hunger-strike-in-Seoul-over-Sewol-disaster-32018.html">hunger strikes</a> to demand accountability and preventative measures continue to grow five months after over 300 people, mostly students on a field trip, lost their lives.<br />
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Apparently some politicians demanding a transparent report on the Presidents' response have been gossiping and speculating on her sex life. Opposition lawmaker Sul Hoon referenced (and dismissed) rumors that President Park was engaging in a "tryst" during a 7 hour period during the tragic Sewol sinking.<br />
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<a href="http://english.hani.co.kr/arti/english_edition/e_national/655017.html">“What did [President Park] do for those seven hours at the Blue House?” Sul asked. “I don’t think it’s true what people are saying about her having a tryst. I think that’s probably not it.”</a><br />
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The resulting political controversy has centered on demands that Sul resign and whether his words were intended to malign the President or to dismiss the rumors. Lost in this discussion is the sexism that the majority party is also leveling at President Park.<br />
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While Sul's accounting of the rumors demonstrate a sexist tendency to focus on the unmarried female President's leadership, they also highlight a sense of betrayal and mistrust. The gossip centers on what might have kept the President preoccupied specifically for the 7 hour period during the Sewol sinking.<br />
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On the other hand, Saenuri party spokesperson Park Dae-chul's statement blurs President Park's public office and private sex life, and are not limited to a discussion of the Sewol sinking, but extend to a general comment about women's sexuality:<br />
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<a href="http://english.hani.co.kr/arti/english_edition/e_national/655017.html">“It’s troubling to think what might happen if there are rumors about ‘the President of the Republic of Korea having a tryst’ going around,” Park added. “The Saenuri Party intends to examine a possible complaint against Sul Hoon to the National Assembly Ethics Committee.”</a><br />
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What might happen?<br />
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By emphasizing the "Republic of Korea" in his statement, perhaps spokesman Park calls upon tried and tested fear of Korean womens' bodies and sexuality and the national image. He asks, how might Korea look to other nations?<br />
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Is the Saenuri Party particularly sensitive to North Korea state media describing President Park as a <a href="http://www.theguardian.com/world/2014/apr/27/north-korea-attacks-south-president-park-geun-hye-obama">"crafty prostitute" in thrall to her "pimp" Barack Obama?"</a> Or is Saenuri still unclear what they meant by the election campaign slogan "Prepared Woman President?" The party cultivates an image of a woman's body and sexuality sacrificed as the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2013/02/25/opinion/south-koreas-new-national-mother-figure.html?_r=0">"mother of the Korean state"</a> and in control in contrast to the <a href="http://www.ibtimes.com/south-korea-thriving-sex-industry-powerful-wealthy-super-state-1222647">womens' bodies the state aggressively polices and regulates</a>. <br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><i>Guest post by the band Baekma. KGC readers will know by now that I (Chelle) dislike the term Baekma,so I asked the band why they choose it and how they are using it to call attention to gender issues. Find the band on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/baekmaband">Facebook</a> and <a href="http://baekma.bandcamp.com/album/baekma">listen to their music here</a>. </i></span></div>
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“What’s the name of your band?” “Baekma.”
“Huh?” “BAEKMA!” <o:p></o:p></div>
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The name we chose for our band warrants many types of
responses. Foreigners or Korean women
must think we like galloping beautiful ponies when we explain the definition.
Korean men, however, are left with looks of surprise, shock or comical
amusement. These men almost always ask, “Do you know what that means?” as if we
weren’t privy to their dirty little secret. Well, we do know what it means and
we chose it to shock you, on purpose. <o:p></o:p></div>
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The phrase literally translates to ‘white horse’ taken from Chinese. A Korean male friend informed me that it
began a few decades ago as slang used to refer to the only Western women one
could find in Korea, Russian prostitutes working the streets of Itaewon. It evolved over time to mean any Western
woman. If this is the true origin, it’s
no wonder that the word implies sex. Mumbled drunkenly among chingus when a
wayguk woman passes them on the street at 4 am, or mentioned when a buddy
returns from a vacation abroad, this word is tossed around between Korean men
with curiosity: “What’s it like to ride the Baekma?” “Did you ride a Baekma on
your trip to Europe?”<o:p></o:p></div>
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After Korean men realize we are aware of the negative
connotations behind our name, we get responses like, “Why would you name your
band that?” or “That’s so sexual!”<o:p></o:p></div>
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First off, I suppose we WANTED to be controversial and
expose the stereotypes surrounding Western women. We started as an all-girl
Western band, coming together after mixed experiences playing in bands with all
boys. Besides feeling like we had more to prove since we were women in the
music scene, we wanted to confront and challenge the idea that Western women
are easy to get into bed or are only valuable in a sexual way. Just because a
woman is in charge of her own sexuality, doesn’t mean she is promiscuous or
dirty. Just because she has a nice set of legs or arms, doesn’t mean her wish
in life is to use them to please a man. Just because she prefers to decide how
she wants to look or act regardless of how a man says she should, doesn’t mean
she is less beautiful. It’s easy to get disheartened in Korea if you do not
fall into the limited impossible standard of beauty. We believe women shouldn’t
be seen as less talented, less driven, less intelligent, or weaker than a man
because cowardly men prefer it. It’s easy to get disheartened in Korea if you
are not used to or do not fall into the very narrow ideal of feminine beauty
within this culture. This standard is impossible to uphold without expensive
treatments, surgery and/or hours wasted on grooming. Also, many men seem to be
holding on the antiquated idea that women’s role in life is to serve them. Sam
Hammington, whether speaking from his own mind, or instructed by a producer, said
on the Global episode of Happy Together in 2013 that he married a Korean woman
because “Korean women are really good to men,” implying that Western women are
NOT because they “have their own lives”, “are never affectionate” and “never
act cute”. In one quick comment, he reduced Korean women’s existence and
demonized the concept of independent women in charge of their own lives. We
know that Korean women are tired of their stereotypes and expectations as much
as we are. We channeled our frustrations of living in this hyper-sexualized and
misogynist society into our music. <o:p></o:p></div>
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There hasn’t really been anyone providing a voice for the
foreign women community within the indie rock scene in Seoul. We feel we have a
unique perspective on gender issues as we compare progress here and abroad. We
hope our voices can support the movement towards gender equality and freedom of
women to choose what they want to become not only in Korea, but also worldwide.
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So we are BaekMas. We are not offended by that word. We are
Baekmas. We act and dress how we want. We say what we feel and believe in. We
write songs about the shitty stuff we see happening to people around us that’s
sometimes based on gender. We sing about how we want the world to be. We will
probably disagree with you. We may even piss you off. We may or may not sleep
with you. But we will definitely make sweet love to your ear holes with our
synth dance pop rock.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<i><span style="color: purple;">Find information on Baekma's <a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/310669435780708/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming">upcoming podcast here</a>.</span></i></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-13631726982462390402014-07-23T02:48:00.001+09:002014-07-23T02:48:43.314+09:00Queer Corner: Walking while Queer, "homonationalism" and "pinkwashing"Someone unknown to me commented on my Facebook profile photo (below) sarcastically referencing "homonationalism" and "pinkwashing" because my photo and text (written in Korean) reads "Let's not stigmatize against LGBTQ people."<br />
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I took this photo in December at the launch of <a href="http://korea.ihollaback.org/ko/">Hollaback! Korea</a>. At the time, a group of <a href="https://www.facebook.com/HollabackKorea/photos_stream">volunteers made a series of photos to respond to their experiences of street harassment</a>. Our project is (meant to be) inclusive of a <a href="http://korea.ihollaback.org/who-we-are/">wide group of people living in South Korea</a> and a safe space to share experience of street harassment, which may include sexual, racial, homophobic and other verbal, non-verbal and physically harassing behavior in public places. So, we wrote our messages in Korean or English and then edited the photos by adding English or Korean text to overlay the photos or by captioning them so that they could be read and shared in both languages to include our whole community of leaders and supporters.<br />
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I took a long time to come out as Bisexual and it is an ongoing process of personal reflection and dialog with trusted friends. When I lived in my home country (US) I only let very few people know and I was very intimidated and lacked the confidence to participate in a supportive community. I have lived in Korea for most of the last 8 years and finally became a part of a community that felt safe among my friends to begin to come out. Since I lived in Korea, several times I have heard in Korean, and a few times in English (the English-speaking population is just smaller) Korean nationals and non-nationals alike target lesbian, gay, transgender, bisexual or gender-role non-conforming people (including me) in public places for street harassment. As a bystander or as the person targeted in those situations, I didn't always speak up. Over time and in the few cases when the comment was directed at me or someone I know, I was more likely to say something or take action.<br />
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I made this photo and message because in the classroom, on the street, in a restaurant, in media and in other settings I overhear(d) homophobic comments made in Korean and sometimes in English, but since I live in Korea, I overhear them more often in Korean. Coworkers made homophobic comments in front of and at me, and in a few cases even friends who know that I am Bisexual make homophobic "jokes" directed at me. So, I took the opportunity to respond in ways that I always wish I could/did/would when I hear these statements.<br />
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The comment gave me a lot to think about, particularly questioning my position as a person speaking out about homophobia. For example, I consider and critique the U.S. State Department for not evaluating its' own human rights record for far too long while leveraging its critique of other states against them in international affairs. Yet, speaking up for myself and supporting friends is not the same thing as "pinkwashing" and "homonationalism" and as a person anywhere I can add my voice to the discussion and I can respond to the harassment I experience. It does not mean that I am an expert, it does not mean that I am condemning anyone, etc. As I put it before, it simply means "Let's not stigmatize against LGBTQ people."<br />
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I am glad to belong to communities of people that share experiences with me and support me, and I am glad to have the opportunity for discussion. I am not going to silently endure homophobia and I will continue to use resources available to me to cope with homophobia, so I am very thankful to have a supportive community that is willing to discuss and hear about experiences of street harassment.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0Seoul, South Korea37.566535 126.9779691999999637.1637645 126.33252219999996 37.969305500000004 127.62341619999997tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-1177301573810201892014-06-28T03:45:00.000+09:002014-07-04T15:56:14.592+09:00"On May 31st I was raped in Itaewon"<br />
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I do not know how to start this gently, so
I am just going to come out and say it: on May 31st I was raped in Itaewon. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was out drinking with a friend at G--- Bar
(ladies night) and the last thing I remember was doing shots with a man whom I
had just met. The next thing I knew I was waking up (in a blurry state of mind)
in a dirty love motel and he was raping me. I was unable to do or say anything
because I was still very drunk, or drugged, and then I passed out again. The
next day I woke up wearing only a t-shirt of his, with vomit in my hair and
bruising on the top of my left foot. I had a massive headache and was very
confused about what had happened the night before. Immediately I was told that
I had vomited and I urinated on myself. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
asked him if we had sex. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">His first reply was no.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I told him that I remembered having sex to
which he then confirmed that we did. I could tell that he was also feeling
uncomfortable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At this point he told me
I still had my wallet with me and that he had used a condom. Like he had done
me a service and I should be thankful for his assistance. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I quickly got my clothes on, which were
soaking wet, and went home. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At this
point I had not labeled the act rape.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
just wanted to get out of his vicinity as soon as possible. I was so hung over
and confused. I had not registered what happened to me. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">This is
not an unusual response from a person who has been sexually assaulted. Often
victims feel that they are somehow responsible and hold themselves accountable
for the violation.</i> I experienced a very textbook reaction to the situation.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Later that day, it hit me that I was raped.
This harsh realisation came to me when I was retelling the incident to some of
my friends. I had to hear my story from a third person perspective. I knew
that if another person was telling me this exact story that I would tell them
that they were raped. Coming to that realisation was a very difficult
process.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I felt very dirty and extremely
violated. I did not want to admit that I was a rape victim/survivor. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I did not want to have a personal relationship
with that word, a word I had feared for most of my life.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I had R----’s Kakao information (phone
number) from the previous night so I messaged him saying I felt that he took
advantage of me and that I was in no state of mind to consent to sex. He wrote
back saying I was passing out on the street so he took me to his motel where I
vomited all over myself and urinated in his bed. He became very defensive and
claimed that he had nothing to do with me sexually. He felt that he was
entitled to a thank you and not an accusation. This was disturbing for many
reasons.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">With the support of my friends I went to
the one-stop center (sexual assault clinic) at the police hospital. I initially
did not want to go.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I wanted to shower
and pretend that nothing had happened. I thought that I was to blame. I did not
want to retell my story because I was terrified that I would not be believed.
That I would be held accountable for the incident.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I did not want to experience the shame that
comes hand in hand with victim blaming. I feared that I would not be taken
seriously because I was unconscious for the majority of the rape. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">All of
these reactions are very common for victims of sexual assault.</i> <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After I did go and decided to press charges I
felt empowered. I had taken control back.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">One week later, I saw R----- in Itaewon,
which sent chills down my back. He was just walking around like everything was normal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>His normalcy was so unsettling because he
appeared to be unchanged by what he did to me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Meanwhile, I was experiencing anxiety, mood swings, fear and depression.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My sense of safety and security had been
taken from me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was having dreams of
him violating me and me being defenseless to stop it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I also had dreams of people telling me that I
should not drink so much or wear that tank top; of people saying that they hoped
I learned a lesson from all this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>R---- seemed as though he was taking a leisurely walk on a sunny day without a worry.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I am an advocate of women’s rights and
identify as a feminist. I am passionate about empowering and advocating for
women; educating others on the very real inequalities that exist between men
and women; and educating others on the impact of rape culture. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am currently in school for counselling women
and would one day like to support victims of violence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have feared rape my whole life. I have
taken precautions to walk down busy streets at night instead of short cuts. I
have asked friends to come to public bathrooms with me. I have had terrifying
nightmares about rape since I was 12 years old.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I am well aware of the high incidents of rape, and that most rapes are
unreported.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have friends who have been
raped by strangers, boyfriends and acquaintances.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I know
that most victims of rape experience re-victimization because of a justice
system that was created in a rape culture that blames the victims.</i> <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even with all of this knowledge and my
feminism my initial reaction was ultimately the fear of judgment.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">While most of my friends were supportive
and reassuring I still encountered discouraging comments.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was told that I was too drunk to really
know what happened, that I should not go to the police because there were too
many grey areas. I was kindly reminded that I had been sexually irresponsible in
the not so distant past. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Essentially, I
was told that because I engaged in consensual sex I put myself at risk of being
raped.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Essentially, I was being told a
woman who is drunk equates to a woman who gets raped and that is just the way
the world works.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Recently, I was asked if
I felt part of the club now. This is not a club that women desire to be a part of.
<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I don’t get a free t-shirt and a spot at
some imaginary victims’ table.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am not
a “rapable” woman, nor did I or any other victim want this membership.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was even instructed not to tell my father
because it would upset him too much.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Like it was something that happened to him and not to me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Like I needed to shield him from being
ashamed of me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Like I am damaged now and
it is best to keep quiet about it and move on. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>All of these reactions by people I love and
who love me are examples of how deeply embedded rape culture is in our
collective consciousness.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I am writing about this incident openly
because I want other women who are unsure if they were raped or are afraid to
disclose for valid reasons know that they are not alone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They are not to blame, <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>it is not their fault and feelings of
confusion are normal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sex without
consent is rape.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A person who has sex
with you without your consent is a rapist.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Just because you drank too much does not mean that you somehow asked for
rape.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Just because you have sex does not
mean that you put yourself at risk of rape. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Just because you talked to a stranger at a bar
does not mean you want to have sex with him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The responsibility of this dehumanising act lies with the rapist.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Why do we still have to tell grown men and
women that rape is not the victims fault? Why is this not common sense in 2014?</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I am not damaged goods, I am not a part of
a rape club, and I am not defined by this incident.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This act happened to me, but I will not allow
it to limit me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I believe some people
would feel more comfortable if I decided to stay home and never to go to
another bar again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That I should learn
my lesson and suffer the consequences of constant fear, depression and
isolation. That I should act like the victim of rape they see on TV or in the
media.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My strength makes people uncomfortable
and skeptical of me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But it is my
feminism and my belief in myself that helps me to heal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My world has not been shattered only
readjusted.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I am not a victim or a survivor first. I am
woman who has been a victim and a survivor of rape.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am not ashamed because I know that the
shame belongs to R----. </span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">One-stop center at the police hospital is a
resource every woman in Seoul should know about.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you are sexually assaulted find the
strength and a friend to go to this center.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>They will give you antibiotics to prevent infection, a physical
examination, blood and STD tests, a counsellor to talk to and the choice of
reporting the incident to the police.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This service was 100 percent free and the staff were professional as
well as sensitive. </span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Caroline</span></span><br />
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Update: Those interested in further information about police response to sexual assault might be interested to read<a href="http://www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20130423001036"> </a></span></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: georgia, verdana, arial, 'Malgun Gothic', '맑은 고딕', dotum, 돋움, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20130423001036">Raped and alone in a foreign land</a></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-71308839033211201012014-05-19T17:13:00.003+09:002014-05-19T17:13:35.661+09:00On Breastfeeding and Being a New Mom in Korea<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;">
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I recently became a mother and moved (back) to Korea when my baby was 2 months old. Since then I have made observations on the mother’s experience here in Korea. The following are just my perceptions, but perhaps there are others out there who see and feel it as I do. </div>
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One of the topics that my professor talked about quite a bit when I was studying Korean society at SNU was Korea’s low fertility. When I look at it now, I think, “No wonder.” It’s just hard being a mother in Korea, especially if you’re a working or single mom. If you want to raise a kid, well don’t expect much help from the rest of society. This is also why Korea still has so many “orphans”, kids who in most cases are not orphans at all but children of unwed parents financially unable to care for them. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I have thought about going back to work (my last job before pregnancy was a contract job in Korea, so that means I need to find a new job). But I’m breastfeeding and my baby will not take formula. The thought of pumping enough milk so that she can have enough everyday if I have to drop her off at daycare is overwhelming as it is. But would a potential Korean employer even allow me pumping breaks? Of course it’s common to take smoking breaks. I mean if it’s so you can go pollute the air and screw up your lungs, go ahead take a quick smoking break. But pumping? Woman, if you’re gonna need time for that baby stuff, to produce the healthiest thing your baby can have, stay at home and be a mom. </div>
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I have a friend from middle school who lives in Florida and literally
we both got unexpectedly pregnant at the same time. Our baby girls were born 5
days apart. Neither of us were married
at the time we got pregnant and neither of us were really prepared to have a
child. Yet she not only got maternity
leave from her job (which was not a contract job) for 2 months, but when she
came back, she had daycare available on-site.
Not only did her company allow her pumping breaks, but also she could go
see her daughter during lunch time to feed her and see her, so the child doesn’t
go the whole day without seeing her mother.
And I envy this friend. That kind
of situation would be perfect for me. I
could still give my baby what she needs to be healthy and earn the money we
need to support our family. But go and find such a job in Korea.</div>
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And then there is the whole ordeal of going anywhere at all with a
breastfed infant. I once decided to go
visit some people who were literally 40 km away. I had to basically cut through all of Seoul
from one part of Gyeonggi-do to another.
So basically I figured the subway ride alone, stop to stop would be one
hour long. Now, I commend Korea for its
nursing rooms in many subway stations.
Those are awesome. However, when
the subway ride alone is one-hour long, chances are a 3 month old will want to
feed during the ride itself. So I came
on the train with my nursing pillow and nursing cover and got nice and
comfortable in the seats reserved for the elderly, disabled and mothers of yet
to be born or young children. But in
Korea, it’s been my understanding that nursing in public is taboo even with a
cover, as if I was doing something nasty under that cover. People are not even used to the idea of a
nursing cover; they just don’t really use them.
So when this lady got on the train and sat next to me, she was all
excited that I had a baby, and without asking starting to lift up the cover to
see underneath. She didn’t realize that
I was nursing. She thought, apparently,
that the cover was just to help the baby sleep.
I was embarrassed when she lifted the cover because across from us were
some older men. I tried to whisper to
her to stop, because I was nursing and when she finally understood she seemed
uncomfortable. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Another not-so-pleasant experience was when my husband, daughter and I
went to a reunion dinner with my husband’s elementary school friends and their
6<sup>th</sup> grade [male] teacher. We
had brought pumped breastmilk and some juice, but the baby drank all of that
and after a while became fussy and demanded more. I told my husband, “Perhaps I should
breastfeed her.” My husband whispered
back, “Not right now, it’s not polite to do it in front of Seonsaengnim.” Although it’s beyond my understanding why it’s
rude to feed my crying baby in front of this man, I had no choice but to accept
the situation. It so happened also that the
restaurant we were at, despite being high end, did not have one of these
nursing rooms. But I am still angry
thinking about how my baby had to go hungry because of these social norms. Why, oh Korean people, is it rude to
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I guess these are the changes I’d love to see. I get it.
Women’s breasts have been messed up by our society to be a sex object
and no one wants to see an exposed breast.
But my baby needs to eat. And she
needs to eat when I leave home too.
Although I believe that breasts were designed by God to feed infants and
not as sex objects, and that therefore women should be able to openly
breastfeed, in the name of cultural understanding, I will meet you halfway and
cover up when I breastfeed. But please
don’t look at me funny when I’m sitting in the subway feeding my baby. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I’d also like to see more companies with daycare on site or in the same
building. I know every business cannot
afford to do that. But don’t tell me
that those big daegieop can’t afford it.
I’d like to see a society where it’s normal for a mom to pump at work,
and that companies wouldn’t have this attitude of “What dare you ask?? Breaks
to pump?!” I’d like to see decent hours for workers with young children so
people have at least a bit of time to spend with their children. Overall, I’d just like to see a change in
attitude towards mothers, so that having a child would be considered a
contribution to society rather than something only women with well-off, higher
salary husbands are allowed to do. Think
about it. If Korea has no children,
there will be no one to support the older generation (aka our generation) in
the future. Sometimes it feels that
lawmakers are so near-sighted. Think of
the future too.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Also I’d be nice if the state could do more to help young/unwed parents
in a difficult financial situation. It’s
true that assistance programs can be quite costly. But what I don’t understand is that it’s
probably so much more costly for the state to run orphanages and fully support
the children whose parents are forced to give them up, than to partly support those families through various programs and/or
subsidies. <o:p></o:p></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-63884085792441822042014-05-14T17:00:00.000+09:002014-05-14T17:02:00.338+09:00Attend my talk on Korea's Sex Trafficking Prevention Act, International Norms & Local Legal Rhetoric<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-30588531292981859882014-05-13T16:30:00.002+09:002014-05-19T17:04:10.106+09:00Korea Queer Pride Fest & unofficial after-party You can find detailed information about <a href="http://www.kqcf.org/">Korea Queer Pride Festival at their website</a>. I am sharing some major event details below:<br />
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: 맑은 고딕; font-size: x-small;">- Event: The 15<sup>th</sup> Annual Korea Queer Culture Festival 2014</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: 맑은 고딕; font-size: x-small;">- Date: June 7<sup>th</sup>-15<sup>th</sup>, 2014</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: 맑은 고딕; font-size: x-small;">- Slogan: Love Conquers Hate</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: 맑은 고딕;">- Program: Queer Parade, Queer Film Festival, After Parties </span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: 맑은 고딕;">- Organizers: KQCF(Korea Queer Culture Festival) </span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: 맑은 고딕;">- Donors: IVANCITY, Google, 80 individual community organizations made up of culture organizations, women organizations and civil society organizations. </span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 굴림; font-size: small;"></span><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 굴림;">Last December, the 15<sup>th</sup> Annual Queer Culture Festival started with the slogan </span><i><span style="font-family: 나눔고딕;"><span style="font-family: 굴림;">“</span></span></i><i><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 굴림;">Love Conquers Hate</span></i><i><span style="font-family: 나눔고딕;"><span style="font-family: 굴림;">”</span></span></i><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 굴림;">, which is now the name of the LGBT campaign spreading throughout the world. </span><span style="font-family: 나눔고딕;"><span style="font-family: 굴림;">“</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 굴림;">Asia Pride in Seoul</span><span style="font-family: 나눔고딕;"><span style="font-family: 굴림;">”</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 굴림;">, will be the main concept of the festival. This event has been organized to invite all Asian LGBT organizations. With this festival, the 15<sup>th</sup> Annual Queer Culture Festival wants to fight against homophobia, which is a constant problem around the world, including Korea. LGBT organizations and individuals from Taiwan, Japan, Hong Kong, China and India are invited to join the festival. On June 7<sup>th</sup>, Seoul will be a place where we can express our refute against discrimination and homophobia, and ultimately celebrate our queer culture.</span></span><span style="font-family: 굴림; font-size: small;"></span><div style="line-height: normal; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; text-indent: 5pt; vertical-align: baseline;">
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: 맑은 고딕; font-size: x-small;">- For additional information please visit:</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 굴림;">- Official Homepage.</span><span style="font-family: 굴림;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 나눔고딕;"> </span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://kqcf.org/xe/file:///C:/Documents%20and%20Settings/%EA%B0%80%EC%A1%B1/Application%20Data/Microsoft/Word/www.kqcf.org">www.kqcf.org</a></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-family: 굴림;"><span lang="EN-US">- Facebook. <a href="https://www.facebook.com/kqcf2000">https://www.facebook.com/kqcf2000</a></span><span lang="EN-US"></span><span lang="EN-US"> / </span></span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 굴림;">Twitter.</span><span style="font-family: 굴림;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 나눔고딕;"> <a href="https://twitter.com/kqcf">https://twitter.com/kqcf</a></span><span lang="EN-US"></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 맑은 고딕;"><b><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt;">Main Program </span></b></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"></span><span lang="EN-US">- When: June 7<sup>th</sup>, 2014 from 12:00-3:00PM</span><br />
<span lang="EN-US"></span><span lang="EN-US">- Where: Sinchon transit mall, Seoul </span><br />
<span lang="EN-US"></span><span lang="EN-US">- Concept: Asia Pride in Seoul (Asian LGBT organizations and individuals will come together to celebrate their pride and to feel a sense of unity) </span><br />
<span lang="EN-US"></span><span lang="EN-US">- Content: Event Booths – Opening Ceremony – Pride Parade – Closing Ceremony</span><br />
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Also passing along information about the <b>Korea Pride Fest unofficial after-party with Meet Market at CLUB MWG in Seoul.</b><br />
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ABOUT The Meet Market:<br />
The Meet Market is a safe space and party for the LGBTQIA* community and their allies in Seoul and S. Korea and has been going on since 2011! It features drag, burlesque, dance and all other things good and queer!<br />
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Meet Market 소개:<br />
퀴어 커뮤니티를 위한 파티!<br />
2011년부터 시작된 퀴어파티 미트마켓은 게이, 레즈, 바이, 트랜스, 퀴어 서포터즈들 다함께 즐길수 있는 파티로 드랙쇼, burlesque (야한 익살쇼), 등의 다양한 쇼와 음악 ,또 멋진 친구들이 함께하는 파티입니다.<br />
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The Event / 이벤트<br />
The Pride Meet Market (The Unofficial Pride Afterparty)<br />
Hosted by: "The Butch-hers"<br />
A party for ALL kinds of queers AND their allies since 2011<br />
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Place: Hongdae: Myoung Wol Gwan (MWG) 장소 : 홍대 클럽 명월관<br />
SATURDAY 7 June 2014 9PM-2:30AM 토요일 6원 7일 9~2:30<br />
Cover: ONLY 10,000 won incl. 1 free drink* 임장료: 만원<br />
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TWO full shows for Pride<br />
1st show at 12.00am<br />
2nd show at 1.30am<br />
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Check out more event details at their Facebook page:<br />
https://www.facebook.com/events/785056638172163/<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-21013946624423968352014-04-05T04:05:00.002+09:002014-04-05T04:39:29.817+09:00Does "Get your arse out, mate" Trivialize Sexism, Street Harassment and Survivors?<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 115%; margin-bottom: 10.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 115%;">The Guardian posted <a href="http://www.theguardian.com/world/video/2014/apr/04/everyday-sexism-turn-tables-women-men-video">“</a></span><span lang="EN" style="line-height: 115%;"><a href="http://www.theguardian.com/world/video/2014/apr/04/everyday-sexism-turn-tables-women-men-video">'Get your arse out, mate': we turn the tables on everydaysexism – video”</a> which is getting praise from some, but I am critical of the
video and its potential to education the public or build solidarity. You can watch the video at the link above or embedded here:<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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to document “experiences of sexism, harassment and assault to show how bad the
problem is &create solidarity.” How does The Guardian's Leah Green work to that end by targeting random men in the street?</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The idea of “turning the tables on men” grabs
attention, for sure, and we’ve seen very successful scripted videos like<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V4UWxlVvT1A"> OppressedMajority</a> that speak volumes about sexism and street harassment without, actually, harassing anyone in the process.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Maybe the Guardian video can even been seen as a
platform to make people hear the words that have been used against those
contributing at Everyday Sexism Project. Great, but that can be done by other means.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Having watched the video, I cannot get behind the
method. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">First, and most importantly, NOBODY should be spoken
to in ways that make them uncomfortable or are intended to intimidate,
humiliate, shame, etc. The Guardian’s Leah Green does not work for Everyday
Sexism, but “performed” scenarios inspired by the project on men. Let’s unpack those euphemisms a bit. The Guardian/Leah Green read real accounts of sexism and harassment, and decided to pick
random unsuspecting men on the street and “perform” intimidating actions, harassment,
and hate speech on them. I have been harassed on the street, I would absolutely
abhor seeing my story as a ‘scenario’ ‘performed’ on another human being. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Yet, the issue is controversial and it is sparking debates, like <a href="http://jezebel.com/these-guys-get-catcalled-once-and-then-are-informed-tha-1558304062">this</a>: </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Second, the scenarios do not necessarily promote awareness of sexual harassment or street harassment and in turn may even contribute to homophobia or
trivializing street harassment survivors. When Leah Green drives by and catcalls out the window, did that teach anyone about the harm? Worse, when Leah Green targets
and asks pairs of men if they have "ever made out," the Guardian reporter is making big assumptions the men being asked, such as about their sexuality. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The segment
absolutely overlooks the reality that gay men and trans men and others also
suffer street harassment. Further, in the minds of the men being asked, or folks watching the video, the ‘scenario
performed on’ the men in the video may either trigger memories of other times they have been targeted for harassment based on their sexual and/or gender identity. Or, rather than promoting awareness about harassment, the question could spark socially heteronormative or homophobic
responses, rather than clicking so that they 'get' how this question connects to
street harassment of pairs of women. The Guardian comes off as policing masculinity and echoes
hate speech that some LGBTQ viewers may have experienced, rather than educating anyone
about the Everyday Sexism Project. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Third, the randomly selected men are not
necessarily those that attack women that contribute to the Everyday Sexism
Project site. We don’t know anything educational about this project, it’s
method, etc. we don't know what was explained to these men that were
"performed on" or what opportunity they had to learn from this
experience. How does that build solidarity, which is the aim of the Everyday Sexism Project?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Street harassment is painful, and being targeted may have been
painful for the men in the video, too. <a href="http://www.breakingnews.ie/discover/get-your-arse-out-mate-undercover-reporter-turns-tables-on-sexism-626963.html">One news outlet</a> titles the image below “Guardianreporterprank_large” and yet the same article commends
the ‘undercover reporter’ for maybe raising “<span style="background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">some
much-needed awareness along the way</span>” through what is labelled a prank. Harassment is not a prank. As Jezebel's Tracie Egan Morrissey points out, "<span style="color: #222222; line-height: 24px;"><a href="http://jezebel.com/this-is-how-men-react-to-being-catcalled-by-a-woman-1558156441">the construction workers didn't like being catcalled </a></span><em style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; line-height: 24px;"><a href="http://jezebel.com/this-is-how-men-react-to-being-catcalled-by-a-woman-1558156441">at all.</a>" </em></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Harassment simply shouldn't be trivialized like this: </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">The Everyday Sexism Project does powerful work by bringing these stories to light.
Taking the project onto the streets and getting people who might not otherwise
take time to self-educate is impressive. i would commend the Guardian and Leah Green for doing that. But, </span><span style="background-color: white;">I am not sure they achieve public education,
or do they potentially damage the reputation of the Everyday Sexism Project by using its' name and coming off as
serving up random retribution to? Careful consideration no doubt went into producing this video, and it is a really notably different video with raw reactions from real people that are not scripted. There will be discussion and reflection, for starters:</span></span></div>
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retribution or as a public education project?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-77176678771050340472014-02-03T09:29:00.002+09:002014-02-03T09:29:09.819+09:00Seoul Event by Hollaback! Korea: Let's put an end to street harassment in our communities!Join Hollaback! Korea in Seoul for a discussion about street harassment and how we can end it. Hollaback! Korea supporters will meet Saturday, February 8 from 2-4PM at Ben James coffee shop near Hapjeong station exit 5. Hollaback Site leaders from Seosan and Seoul will be present and welcome all members to participate in the discussion and/or share their stories for support. Hollaback! Korea supporters will strategize how to end street harassment in our communities.<br />
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Saturday, February 8, 2014<br />
2:00pm until 4:00pm<br />
Cafe Ben James, Seoul Mapo-Gu Hapjeong-Dong 411-5<br />
See details and RSVP on the Hollaback! Korea <a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/513524325423442/">Facebook page</a><br />
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Community members of all genders, sexual orientations, race, and national origin are welcome to join Hollaback! Korea. Hollaback! Korea founders and supporters are friends, daughters, students, sisters and brothers, workers, supporters, partners, wives and husbands who are Korean nationals, people of color, adoptees, foreigners, ethnic and overseas Koreans, LGBTQ, young and old, single and multicultural family members of Korean society. we come from Seoul, Gwangju, Busan, Daejeon, Jeju, and Daegu to share these stories. We are building an intersectional space to address street harassment and welcome anyone to join this movement.<br />
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This is a map depicting the geographic location of (some of) the stories shared to Hollaback! Korea in the two months since the project launched. See the full map at the <a href="http://korea.ihollaback.org/">Hollaback! Korea website</a>. Pink dots visually depict stories shared by the person targeted for harassment, green dots are stories shared by a bystander who witnessed harassment.<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-32099688379358866122014-01-27T21:00:00.000+09:002014-01-27T21:00:00.469+09:00흑형이란? What is meant by Black (Big) Brother? 흑형이라는 말에 대해 어떻게 생각합니까? 인종차별주의적 태도가 보여합니까? 또한 성적 매력을 부여합니까? What do you think of the term Black (Big) Brother? Does it show a racist attitude? Does it show sexualization?<br />
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"흑형" 이미지 검색의 결과에 봅시다 Let's take a look at search engine results for the term:<br />
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구글 Google:<br />
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"흑누나"의 결과 Black (Big) Sister search term results:<br />
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3개월 전에 <a href="http://kin.naver.com/qna/detail.nhn?d1id=6&dirId=6130105&docId=183517405&qb=7Z2R7ZiV&enc=utf8&section=kin&rank=2&search_sort=0&spq=1&pid=RXiaolpySpsssc0iji4sssssstK-321904&sid=UuZFogpyVpAAAH0ZWck">비공개의 얘기</a>에 봅시다 Let's look at a conversation on Naver from 3 months ago:<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>Rough Translation:</b> When we use the term "Black (Big? Brother" and thoughtlessly talk down to people with other skin colors, don't you think it can make people of color feel bad and is a wrong thing to do??</span></td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>Rough Translations:</b> (top) It isn't talking down. With those words I am going to praise the greatness of Black (Big) Brother and Black (Big) Sister. (middle): It's wrong. But the term is already spread widely. Can't get rid of it People use it a lot ㅜㅜ (bottom with image): The term Black (Big) Brother was made to make people laugh, right? Korea thinks it is so funny so it won't be easy to get rid of. </span></td></tr>
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네티즌들의 “흑형”이라 붙인 사진에 보면서 인종적 고정 관념에 대해 생각합시다. 이렇게 인해 인종차별주의적 태도가 비판할 수 있다. 예를 들어 억센 팔과 살팍진 몸이 강조하고 이미지의 내용을 평가하면 성관계에 관한 형상화를 많이 본다. When we look at the images that Korean language users attach the term "Black (Big) Brother" to we can think about racist attitudes. In this way we can criticize these attitudes. For example, in the images above we see an emphasis on muscular and sexualized bodies, and that the term is attached to references to sexuality and sexual imagery.<br />
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<b>흑형이라는 말에 대해 어떻게 생각합니까? What do you think about the term Black (Big) Brother?</b>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0Seoul, South Korea37.566535 126.9779691999999637.1637645 126.33252219999996 37.969305500000004 127.62341619999997tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-63048073387105158292014-01-25T13:43:00.001+09:002014-01-25T15:14:33.642+09:00Street Harassment in KoreaA little over six weeks since launching <a href="http://korea.ihollaback.org/">Hollaback! Korea</a> I have already read about 20 stories from members of our community. I have also seen <a href="https://www.facebook.com/HollabackKorea">hundreds of people step up to join </a>our project to end street harassment. At our events and during interviews, a number of people who have not written their stories and shared to the site have also discussed the issue with me.<br />
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I am frequently asked,<b> "What is Hollaback?"</b><br />
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Hollaback is an international movement to end street harassment that is active in 24 countries and over 71 cities in 10 languages. By street harassment, we refer to sexist, racist, transphobic, homophobic, ableist, sizeist and/or classist harassment that often targets women, LGBTQ and transgender community members. This harassment takes place in public places like parks, the subway, on the street or in a shop. Street harassment can be intimidating behavior intended to make the target uncomfortable or scared. It can be verbal, physical, gestures or noises, and other forms of intimidating behavior.<br />
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<b>"How was Hollaback! Korea founded?"</b><br />
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We are organizing this project all over Korea, but particularly in Seoul, Gwangju, Jeju, Seosan, Daejeon and Daegu. I started to recruit founding team members last July and we all participated in a 3 month online training course and supported by the iHollaback international team so that we could prepare for the launch in early December. We had a lot of hard work like translating the website and mobile app into English, planning 5 launch events in Seoul, Gwangju and Jeju, moderating and growing our social media presence on Facebook and Twitter, and doing media and press outreach. I am really grateful to our team for their dedication and to our community for their warm welcome.<br />
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<b>"How does Hollaback! address street harassment?"</b><br />
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Hollaback! has empowered people in over 70 cities and 24 countries internationally to respond to street harassment through a smartphone or web application. Users are encouraged to speak up when they see harassment by quickly documenting it in a short post (photo optional) and sharing it to a publicly viewable map. Anyone browsing the stories on the Hollaback! maps immediately understands 3 things:<br />
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1) If you’ve been harassed, you’re not alone,<br />
2) Street harassment is used to exert control over others by making them feel scared or uncomfortable. It is much more than individuals just acting inappropriately.<br />
3) There are street harassment “hotspots” in most cities often centered around high pedestrian traffic areas.<br />
Hollaback! provides comfort to those harassed, and proof that street harassment is a serious problem warranting a serious response from policy makers.<br />
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<b>"Is Hollaback! Korea different from other sites because of domestic law?" </b><br />
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First, it is important to note that our project is about support and social awareness. We are primarily focused on supporting those targeted for street harassment and to promoting public outreach to stop harassers. We believe that what specifically counts as street harassment is determined by those who experience it. If you’ve experienced street harassment, we’ve got your back! I highly recommend speaking with an organization like Korea Womens Hotline for more detailed analysis of the law, but I can make some personal observations about Korea law.<br />
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I think that the Korean legal system is one of the most well organized in the world. Of course there are differences in legal codes country to country, for example, some countries recognize a Good Samaritan code more than Korea. This means that if you intervene to protect someone in danger you get some consideration for being a Good Samaritan. A major difference might be that although Hollaback users in New York and other cities can post the face of their harasser, on our site we have to blur the face and the names of any businesses in the image. We can, and do, post images, but the face has to be blurred. Some countries have more extensive laws covering street harassment than Korea and some do not have such laws. Right now there is a public indecency law with a fine of 30,000 won on the books.<br />
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<b>Learn more</b><br />
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I was recently invited to TBS eFM for an interview about Hollaback! Korea to discuss street harassment and have shared the interview below.<br />
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<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/LgX0uvUeA-k" width="420"></iframe>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0Seoul, South Korea37.566535 126.9779691999999637.1637645 126.33252219999996 37.969305500000004 127.62341619999997tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-33087979923607761202014-01-01T17:18:00.002+09:002014-01-01T17:24:23.746+09:00Subdued New Year's Eve Celebration in Seoul<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Jan. 1, 2014<br />
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After protests drew hundreds of thousands out to rally against the Park Geun Hye administration, National Intelligence Service (NIS) election interference and railway privatization protests, downtown Seoul drew crowds last night for the annual New Year's Eve celebration near Bosingkak for the ringing of the bell at midnight. Although about 100,000 people came out for the celebration, the mood in Seoul reflected the disenchantment expressed in the "<a href="http://www.hani.co.kr/kisa/section-issue/118/home01.html">How are you doing</a>" poster campaigns that have been posted on campuses across the nation.<br />
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I have attended this celebration at Bosingkak four times and usually it is a quite festival affair. Usually we enjoy upbeat performances and the crowd is quite excited. Each year a rendition of Arirang swells as the crowd sings along. Popular songs from the past year elicit cheers and crowd participation. Fireworks and cheering crowds usher in the New Year and you can barely hear the ringing of the bell over the crowd. Ordinarily the fireworks light up the sky and members of the crowd shoot off many Roman Candles for added color. <br />
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Along the stream near Bosinkak you will usually find abundant decorations and light displays, but last night there was only one small grouping of a lit tree. I suspect that decorating for the holidays was a quite low priority this year amidst protests and recession. But it wasn't only the government side of the celebration that seemed... less... than in previous years, it was also the citizens, who despite coming out, were rather quiet and uninspired to ring in the new year. Police crowd control forces in their their yellow jackets and holding red flags were stationed not only at the perimeter of the crowd, but even prominently distributed throughout the crowd this year.<br />
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Last night, the music selection and performances were quite subdued. Slow and almost sad ballads were the predominant performances, in contrast to the flashy uptempo dance performances in past years. Even when performers on stage tried to elicit crowd participation, asking the 100,000 attendees to sing the chorus or join in some some call and response singing, the crowd was rather quiet. The event seemed either thrown together at the last minute, or intentionally down tempo. Even the b-boy performance was alongside a mellow rendition of Arirrang. As the clock struck midnight, we counted down from 20 and after a brief cheer, a single spray of silver confetti showered the surprisingly quiet crowd. I could distinctly hear the bell, for once.<br />
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Earlier in the evening, over dinner, I had said to a new friend, "If we're going to keep debating politics, I'll need a beer!" I think that sums it up for me, to all of our readers, Happy New Year and thanks for contributing to the discussion here at Korean Gender Cafe~<br />
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Links to crowd images and coverage:<br />
http://www.yonhapnews.co.kr/society/2014/01/01/0701000000AKR20140101001600004.HTML<br />
http://www.newscj.com/news/articleView.html?idxno=220761<br />
http://www.newsis.com/ar_detail/view.html?ar_id=NISX20140101_0012631286&cID=10201&pID=10200Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-2592752246539461442013-12-03T08:00:00.000+09:002013-12-03T08:00:09.529+09:00Hollaback! Korea Launch & Reflection<span style="font-size: x-small;">The Hollaback! Korea website launched December 3! Hollaback! Korea was founded in August 2013 by a team of 23 volunteers working to address street harassment in Korea. We are the friends, daughters, students, sisters, workers, supporters, partners, wives who are Korean nationals, women of color, adoptees, foreigners, ethnic and overseas Koreans, LGBTQ, young and old, single and multicultural family members of Korean society, we come from Seoul, Gwangju, Busan, Daejeon, Jeju, and Daegu to share these stories. We are building an intersectional space to address street harassment and welcome anyone to participate. Visit <a href="http://korea.ihollaback.org/">Hollaback! Korea at our website</a>, on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/HollabackKorea">Facebook</a>, and on <a href="https://twitter.com/HollabackKorea">Twitter</a>.</span><br />
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Taking the blog off - line the past few months has been really rewarding. Since June I have been recruiting and training side-by-side with a fantastic group of people all over Korea to launch a street (sexual) harassment awareness project called Hollaback! Korea.<br />
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This has been one of the most rewarding experiences of the six years I have lived in Korea. Connecting the values of this blog with a project like Hollaback has helped me commit to my work.<br />
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I owe a huge debt of gratitude to groups that I’ve learned a lot from over the past few years. The Gwangju International Center (GIC) had a big impact on me during my Gwangju days. I really respected the way that GIC worked hard to integrate community members and provided resources for discussion. In Seoul I have been inspired beyond measure by the people connected to Single Moms’ Day (SMD), which I’ve discussed here on the blog before. I still think SMD is the single most amazing conference I have ever participated in but the group also invited me to see what it was like to have many amazing people participating in a project in a variety of ways. SMD helped me start to engage in communities around me by identifying skills that I did have and could share, and also gave me an aspiration point: I knew that I wanted to keep working hard to learn from others and learn to communicate with others.<br />
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I’ve also benefitted from the support of fellow bloggers and writers. I hope there will be future opportunities for feedback and debate, which has been growing in recent months. I have to point out the diligence of the Grand Narrative for sharing information and resources about gender in Korean society, particularly highlighting and promoting the work of others on top of writing great content.<br />
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Hollaback! Korea is another type of growth but it is connected to writing and blogging and spreading awareness and many of the core values here at KGC. It has been exciting to interact off – line with team members and to see that events in Gwangju, Jeju and Seoul are engaging people in our discussion. Online, between Facebook, Twitter and the Hollaback Website we have a lot of opportunities to engage and I look forward to the ensuing conversations.<br />
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It’s been challenging to juggle the preparation for launch, particularly producing accurate content in Korean. I hope our mobile app is accurately translated and will be useful. Preparing something professional and engaging in Korean is a different experience than writing book reviews, research papers or messing around on my blog in Korean.<br />
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It’s been difficult to team build and effectively communicate with a team that is living all over this country. Our team of volunteers has been really energetic and creative. I am lucky to be surrounded by so many talented individuals. Especially those whose talents are so different from my own. I can’t adequately describe how awesome it is to have assembled this group of my favorite and most inspiring peers and then work on a project like this together!<br />
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It has been difficult to reach out beyond my own communities and seek new friends. However, this might be my favorite part of this project (and this blog). I started to write because I thought that my passion for my studies was a bit solitary. I want to share ideas and have broader conversations. As a result, I am learning volumes from new friends. I appreciate the lessons and appreciate the mistakes that I make as I take steps forward.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0South Korea35.907757 127.7669220000000229.325985999999997 117.43977350000003 42.489527999999993 138.09407050000002tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-59340694887995156382013-11-13T01:19:00.001+09:002013-11-13T01:19:08.894+09:00Event: Hollaback! Gwangju, Fri Dec 6, 7PM In the Groove Lounge<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;">Hollaback is a project to address street (sexual) harassment in our communities. </span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;">The </span><a href="http://korea.ihollaback.org/" style="font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;">Hollaback! Korea website</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;"> will launch November 27! Help us spread the word about the project as we start a new chapter of Hollaback in Korea. We will hold an introductory discussion about the issue of street harassment, Hollaback as an international nonprofit, and our goals for HB Korea.</span><br />
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RSVP for the event on Facebook at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/556149334464502/">Hollaback Korea 할라백 코리아</a><br />
<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-15928217183798264642013-11-12T19:42:00.000+09:002013-11-12T19:42:46.459+09:00Thank You<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Hello Readers,<br />
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Thank you for your ongoing support.<br />
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Jenderole and I are the founder and main organizers of this blog.<br />
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We have both gotten sucked into our thesis research. We are researching, writing (and eventually publishing, gulp) about causes very much in the spirit of Korean Gender Café: gender theory, human rights, LGBTQ rights, sex trafficking, media, law and sex workers rights. For us, this online conversation serves as a motivator in our offline research and a way for us to reach out to you.<br />
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This blog was born a little over 14 months ago. We used to hang out together at coffee shops and talk about gender and politics, news, sociology, history, sexuality, and you name it~ We practices communicating about these ideas in English and in Korean. We wished for a way to take our conversations online and share them with wider audiences. We wanted to open a space for discussion.<br />
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However, to open space for discussion, we need ongoing participation from our readers and we need your trust. We need to you to add to the discussion in the comments section, to write to us and pose topics, to be a guest contributor to this blog. We need you to build trusting conversations and safe spaces with your friends about the issues we discuss here, to show each other respect and to really do the work of understanding one another.<br />
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We want to recognize and deeply thank our contributors over the past year. We enjoyed learning from you and with you, and we were honored to host your thoughtful posts.<br />
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Thank you to our friends who helped with editing on the site and with writing. Thank you DaJung, Enzo, Deborah, Chloe, Tamara, Taylor and Bryan.<br />
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We have also gotten busy building a great team of folks that are organizing <a href="https://www.facebook.com/HollabackKorea">Hollaback! Korea</a> and hope to engage many of our readers in offline projects for public awareness and discussion about street sexual harassment.<br />
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In the coming year you can expect more content from us, more offline engagement, and you can expect us to continue to be honored to host guest posts on a variety of topics. Please contact us if you would like to be considered for a guest post.<br />
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Let's talk!<br />
Chelle B. MilleAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-63720076856234828292013-11-07T11:09:00.001+09:002013-11-12T19:24:21.149+09:00Testify, PART III: Sex After Sexual Assault 성폭행 후의 성생활 [Guest Post]<span style="color: blue;">Join us in thanking guest blogger Chloe Lee Myunghyun, an organizer of <a href="https://www.facebook.com/DisruptiveVoices?fref=ts">Disruptive Voices</a>, for sharing this final installment on her series about sexual assault, police reporting and dating after assault. Please also read <a href="http://koreangendercafe.blogspot.kr/2013/10/testify-part-i-morning-after-guest-post.html">Part I: The Morning After</a> and <a href="http://koreangendercafe.blogspot.kr/2013/10/part-ii-testimony.html">Part II: Latent Rapists</a>. </span><br />
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<b>PART III: Sex After Sexual Assault 성폭행 후의 성생활</b><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">사건 사고 발생일로부터 이미 1년 4개월, 내가 성폭행 생존자라는 것을 깨달은지 8개월째.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">A year and four months after the attack, and 8 months since I realized I am a survivor.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">재미있는건 자신이 어떤 상황에서 피해자임을 깨닫는것 만큼 자의식이 뚜렷해지는 일도 없지만 그만큼 섹스에 대한 태도도 바뀐다. 내가 처음 "내가 당한일은 그가 술마셔서, 약을 해서야"등 그에게 변명을 대줬고 끊임없이 당시 무력했던 자신을 자책한 것은 이미 거론했다. 그러나 시간이 흘러가면서 더 이상 이런 자기연민에 빠져있는 피해자가 아닌, 이 일로 다른 사람들을 도울수 있는 생존자가 되려고 노력했다. 나의 대처 방법은 남들에게 나의 이야기를 하는 것이었다. 이를 통해 성적 학대에 대한 이야기들을 주위에서 더 많이 듣게 되었고 무섭게도 얼마나 흔히 있는 일인지 깨달았다. 말을 할수록 자신에게 대한 수치심이나 부끄러움도 덜었다. 얘기할 때마다 나는 더 큰 해방감을 느꼈다.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">The funny thing is there is nothing more that awakens the consciousness than discovering that you are a victim, but my attitude towards sex had changed permanently. In the beginning, I came up with all sorts of excuses to for him, "This happened to me 'cus he was drunk, 'cus he was high", and I have already mentioned how much I faulted my helplessness. As time passed, I no longer wanted to be a victim wallowing in self-pity, but worked hard to become a survivor that could help others through my experience. My way of dealing with it was to tell others my story. </span><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16px;">The more I told my story, the more individuals around me came forward with their own stories. The more I talked about it, the more the shame and humiliation wore off. I felt more liberated every time I shared.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">그러나 이 이야기를 쉽게 꺼낼수 없는 상대들이 있었다. 이들은 나의 섹스 파트너들이었다. 내 파트너 중 가장 가까운 친구외에는 그 누구에게도 내 이야기를 말하지 않았다. 나의 대다수의 파트너들은 친구도 연인도 아닌 애매한 사이의 상대들이었고 이런 나의 일을 털어놓으면 애매한 사이가 더 틀어지는 건 뻔하다. 그들과 은밀한 나의 일부를 공유하면서도, 나의 은밀한 일들을 말할수 없는게 참 모순이다. 끌리면 가능했던 섹스, 나는 소위 "해방된, 개방적인 성생활"을 누리고 있다고 생각했지만 되돌아보면 완전히 깨어있는 정신으로 섹스를 한 적이 별로 없었다. 더 짜증나는 사실은 나에게 있었던 일이 강제추행이라는 것을 깨닫고 난 후 섹스 할 때마다 자신의 트로우마의 흔적을 다시 보게됐다. 내가 당한게 범죄라는 것을 알기 전에는 이러한 증상에 시달리지 않았다. 이런걸 보면 차라리 몰랐으면…이라는 생각도 든다.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">But there were certain individuals I could not share my story to. Those were my sex partners. Excluding one that is a close friend of mine, I did not tell anyone else. All of my partners have been in-betweens, someone lost between friend and lover, and I knew the already-awkward relationships would turn terribly awry if I told them what had happened to me. It was ironic how I could not be intimately comfortable with them even though I was sharing a part of me that was intimate. I was living a "liberated and conscious" sex life, yet looking back I can count how many times I have had completely sober sex. The brunt of this turmoil was that the trauma hit an all-time high after once my experience was labeled “sexual assault”. I have been seeing traces of my trauma smudged under the sheets, on the ceiling, and the four walls of every bedroom I was intimate in. I didn’t suffer from such symptoms before it was called assault, and I sometimes wonder if it was better not knowing at all.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">이 일이 있는 전까지는 첫 경험한 남자하고만 잠자리를 가졌었다. 당시 우린진지한 사이도 아니었지만 섹스에 대해 꽤 보수적이었다. 그러나 그 일 이후로 새로운 "성적 자유로움"을 찾은 나, 진실로 성 주체성을 되찾은 것인가 아님 아직도 트로우마에서 헤어나오지 못하는 것인지? 나는 전자라고 믿고 싶다.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">Before the incident, I was that girl, physically and emotionally loyal to the man I lost my virginity to. He was merely a distant friend; I suppose I was quite conventional in a sense . But after a failed attempt at prosecuting my perpetrator, was my new-found "sexual liberation" truly a statement of my restoring my sexuality or was I in denial about my healing? I hope for the former.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">경찰서 사건 이후로 이 일이 산산조각난 후 만나고 있는 점잖은 친구 한 명과 처음으로 제대로된 성관계를 가졌다. 그리고 잠에 들었는데 그날 저녁 강간 당한 꿈을 꿨다. 꿈에서 나는 곧바로 병원에서 검사를 받고 증거물을 가지고 경찰서에 가서 신고했다. 신고 대상도 아닌게 한이었나보다. 다음 번에는 그와 섹스를 한 후 순간 너무 더럽게 느껴졌고 갑자기 공황증상까지 오기도 했다. 예상치도 못한 기이한 상황들이 벌어지자 나는 투쟁 정신이 강해졌다. 한동안은 금욕주의자가 될까도 생각해봤지만 이 일로 하여금 내 자신을 더 이상 자책하거나 벌주고 싶진 않았다. 무엇보다도 끌리는 사람이 있으면 자연스럽게 원하게 된다. 물론 가장 이상적인 상황은 나를 아끼고 사랑해주는 상대를 만나 나에게 있었던 일들을 모두 얘기하고, 그가 날 이해해주고, 날 더 사랑해주고, 우린 열정적이고 불타오르는 섹스를 할 것이고 등등.. 말해봤자 희망사항일뿐 난 내 자신을 위해 더 현실적인 방법으로 대면해야 했다.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">One of the first times I had sober sex after the incident, I fell asleep after and dreamt that I got raped. The morning after I went to the hospital and filed a police report with the evidence at hand. I must have been hung up about not being validated. The next time, it felt so dirty after and I had a panic attack where I felt like I was drowning. As these strange events occured, I only wanted to fight this even more. For some time, I wondered if I should become celibate but I no longer wanted to blame or punish myself for what happened. On top of that, I naturally crave intimacy when I meet someone I am attracted to. Granted, the most ideal scenario would be to be intimate with someone that loves me and I will feel comfortable to tell them everything and they will understand, love me even more and we will have passionate, hot sex, etc but these are unrealistic demands. I had to make more practical decisions about my sex life.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">시간이 지난 후 또 끌리는 상대를 만났다. 이때는 정말이야 말로 이 트로우마이고 뭐고 자유로운 섹스를 하고 싶었다. 그리고 정말 오랫만에 잠자리에서 다른 남자를 상상하지 않고그냥 그에게 너무 끌렸다. 도중 화장실이 급해 침대에서 일어나 혼자 화장실로 들어갔는데 나도 모르게 울기 시작했다. 울면서도 계속 내 자신에게 "안돼, 이걸 이겨야 해"라고 하면서 화장실에서 나와 그는 마저 2시간동안 침대를 달궜다.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;" />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">After some time, I met another person I was undeniably attracted to. Trauma or not, I wanted to enjoy sex openly. And for the first time in a long time, I had sex with him without fantasizing about someone else. I was just so attracted to him. In the middle, I had to pee so I went to the bathroom alone and I started crying uncontrollably. Even through the tears, I told myself, "I need to fight this," and came out looking fresh and we heated up the sheets for two more hours.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;">모임에 있는 친구들에게 성적 학대 후 성 생활에 대해 물어봤을때 그들은 시간이 약이라고 한다. 그러면서도 가끔 좌절하게 될때도 있다고 한다. 인생의 모든 안 좋은 추억과 일들처럼, 흔적은 남는다. 나에게 정답은 없다. 내가 다음에 만날 상대와 잠을 잤을 때도 똑같이 고통스러울까? 아니면 아무런 느낌도 없을까? 지금만큼은 이 노이로제에서 벗어나고 싶다. 그러나 제발, 제발... 아무 느낌도 없는 섹스만 아니었으면 좋겠다.</span><br />
<br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Calibri, 'Microsoft YaHei UI', 'Malgun Gothic', 'Segoe UI', Meiryo, 'Microsoft JhengHei UI', sans-serif; font-size: 16.363636016845703px;" />
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Educate Girls. Change the World. http://girlrising.com/<br />
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What?<br />
Girl Rising is a global action campaign for girls' education, founded by award-winning journalists at The Documentary Group and Paul G. Allen's Vulcan Productions, along with strategic partner, Intel Corporation. Centered by the new feature film, Girl Rising, Girl Rising uses the power of storytelling and the leverage of strategic partnerships to deliver a simple, critical truth: Educate Girls and you will Change the World.<br />
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Girl Rising is a groundbreaking film, directed by Academy Award nominee Richard Robbins, which tells the stories of 9 extraordinary girls from 9 countries, written by 9 celebrated writers and narrated by 9 renowned actresses.<br />
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- For payment in advance please send 10,000 won to (Shinhan Bank) account number 110-401-239555. The confirmation name will be Jones Caroline Lindsay. Make sure to<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-68275578174369767092013-10-28T19:57:00.004+09:002013-11-07T11:12:27.781+09:00Testify, Part II: Latent Rapists [Guest Post]<span style="background-color: white; color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">Korean Gender Café hosts the second installment of this series with guest blogger Chloe Lee Myunghyun, an organizer of <a href="https://www.facebook.com/DisruptiveVoices" style="color: #004c99; text-decoration: none;">Disruptive Voices</a>, who shares her story about sexual assault, police reporting and dating after assault. Also read <a href="http://koreangendercafe.blogspot.kr/2013/10/testify-part-i-morning-after-guest-post.html">Part I: The Morning After</a> and </span><span style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><a href="http://koreangendercafe.blogspot.kr/2013/11/testify-part-iii-sex-after-sexual.html">PART III: Sex After Sexual Assault 성폭행 후의 성생활</a>.</span></span><span style="background-color: white; color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"> </span><br />
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PART II: Latent Rapists<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>a friend is hard to press charges against</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i><br /></i></span>
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>if you know him you must have wanted it</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>a misunderstanding</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>you know these things happen</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>are you sure you didnt suggest</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>had you been drinkin</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>a rapist is always to be a stranger to be legitimate someone you never saw a man wit obvious problems</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>pin-ups attached to the insides of his lapels</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>ticket stubs from porno flicks in his pocket</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>a lil dick</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>or a strong mother</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>or just a brutal virgin</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>but if you’ve been seen in public wit him danced one dance kissed him good-bye lightly</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>wit closed mouth</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>pressin charges will be as hard as keepin yr legs closed while five fools try to run a train on you</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>these men friends of ours who smile nice stay employed and take us out to dinner</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>lock the door behind you</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>wit fist in face to fuck</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>who make elaborate mediterranean dinners & let the art ensemble carry all ethical burdens while they invite a coupla friends over to have you are sufferin from latent rapist bravado & we are left wit the scars</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>bein betrayed by men who know us</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>& expect like the stranger we always thot waz comin</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>that we will submit</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>we must have known</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>women relinquish all personal rights the presence of a man who apparently cd be considered a rapist</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>specially if he has been considered a friend</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>he is no less worthy of bein beat witin an inch of his life bein publicly ridiculed havin two fists shoved up his ass</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>man the stranger he always thot it wd be</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>who never showed up</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>az it turns out the nature of rape has changed</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>we can now meet them in circles we frequent for companionship</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>we see them at the coffeehouse</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>wit someone else we know</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>we cd even have em over for dinner & get raped in our own houses by invitation a friend</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>by Ntozake Shange</i></span><br />
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Ntozake Shange의 소설 <<For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf(무지개로써 충분했을때/자살을 고민한 유색인종 여성들을 위해)>>에서 나오는 한 시다. 영화로 각색한 이 작품을 보고 난 후 나는 마지막 줄이 가장 섬뜩했다. "We cd even have em over for dinner & get raped in our own houses by invitation a friend". 의역을 하자면 "우린 친구인 가해자들을 집에 저녁 초대를 해 우리집에서 강간을 초대한다"다. 내가 그랬다. 5년 동안 알고지낸 지인, 개인적으로 내 취향으로는 조금 가벼운 성격의 소유자지만 재능있는 친구로 나쁘게만 평가하진 않았다. 통계학적으로 성추행 및 성폭행 가해자의 거의 80%는 피해자가 평소에 알고 있는 사람이라고 한다. 머리로만 알고 있었던 숫자, 현실에서 왜 계산이 안된 걸까. 난 원래 수학에 약하다.<br />
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The above poem is an excerpt from Ntozake Shange's For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf. When I first watched the adapted film, I felt the last line exceptionally chilling - "We cd even have em over for dinner & get raped in our own houses by invitation a friend." That's what happened to me. An acquaintance I knew for 5 years, an individual I felt a little shallow for my taste yet talented, so he wasn't all bad in my eyes. Statistically speaking, almost 80% of rape and sexual assault perpetrators are people that the victim knows(1). Numbers I only knew intelligibly, yet I could not calculate the events that would, might, could happen in real life. I've always been bad at math.<br />
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마음도 약하다. 지금은 많이 나아졌지만 한 번씩 감정이 폭풍처럼 밀려올때가 있다. 그의 폭력적인 행위보다는 나의 무력함이 수치스러웠다. <b>모두 상처와 고통이 있는 사람들끼리 사는 삶속에서 대화로 안 통할때가 있다는 점이 너무 증오스러웠다. </b>투쟁하고, 발버둥치고, 싸워야 겨우 숨쉴수 있는 공간을 지킬수 있는 현실이 미칠 듯이 짜증났고 징그럽게 부정적인 사회와 타협하고 싶지 않았다. 나의 히피족-평화주의-반폭력주의 사상은 내가 싸워야 했을때 날 병신으로 만들었다. 폭력말고 말과 눈빛으로 사람과 교감하면 누구든 설득시킬수 있다고 생각했다. 지금도 그런 주의지만 가끔은 폭력도 필요하다. <b>말콤 X.</b><br />
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I'm also bad at being tough. I mean really tough. I have gotten over most of what happened, but once it awhile, it comes over me like a wave. I was humiliated more by my helplessness than his violence. I hated the fact that people would not communicate even though <b>we can connect through pain</b>. I did not want to compromise with this disgustingly negative society where I had to fight tooth and nail, throw a violent tantrum just to survive. <b>Just to come up and breathe.</b> Coincedentally, this hippie-pacificist-anti-violent attitude of mine left me crippled with no defense. I used to believe I could persuade anyone if I looked deep enough into their eyes and connect. I suppose I am still inclined to believe so but when you have to fight for your right to be respected as a human being, fight...by any means necessary. <b>Malcolm X.</b><br />
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이하는 2013년 2월 중순 내가 작성한 진술서다. 어이없이 짧은 공소시효 기간, 그리고 이미 저 멀리 미국으로 튄 그 놈 탓에 한동안 내 진술서는 그냥 안타깝기 그지없는 이야기였다. 오늘 여기서 처음 내뱉는 말이지만, 단체로 고소를 하려 했을때, 6개월 이전 피해자들에게 질투를 느끼기도 했다. 그들은 법적으로 자신들의 경험을 인정 받았고, 나 같은 6개월이 지난, 마치 유통기간이 지난 이야기는 버렸다. 나는 몇 주 후 끝까지 고소를 포기하지 않은 생존자와 함께해주려는 마음에 2명의 친구들과 함께 경찰서에 갔다. 나는 그날 회사에서 오후 시간을 빼달라고 요청을 하고 나왔다. 가는 도중 이날 생존자는 경찰서에서 나와 통화했던 형사를 만날수 있다고 했다. 전에는 "보면 한 마디할거야"라고 예상했지만 막상 가니 "왜 지금와서 고소하는 거에요", "증거가 없으면 성폭행, 강제추행 건은 증명하기가 힘듭니다"등 냉정하지만 형사로서 모두 타당성있는 질문들이었다. 이런걸 이용해 먹는 사람들을 막기 위해 법이있는거다. 머리로는 이해하지만 솔직히 마음은 너무 무거웠다. 당일 고소하러 경찰서에 찾아온 그녀는 형사와 담배를 피우며 대화하는 모습을 보고 나는 한편은 애써 체념한건지, 인간애는 바싹 마르고 관료주의에 찌든 그들이 정말 괜찮은 건지 구분하기 힘들었다.<br />
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Below is a statement I wrote on February 2013. For a good while, due to an unbelieveably scant statute of limitations and the fucker that fled to the US, my statement was just a sorry testimony that was sad - not the emotional kind, but the state kind of sad. The sadder(still state) truth? I am admitting this for the first time here but I felt a pang of jealousy throughout the whole ordeal towards the six-month-and-under victims. They had legally binding stories while stories older than 6 months were disposed, as if we mistook the expiration date and presented it to the detectives to drink our fucking Kool-Aid. A few weeks later, I accompanied one of the victims (of the former group) who was pressed to pursue to case, together with two friends to the police station. I took a few hours off from work. On our way, the victim set to testify said that the detective I had conversed with over the phone would be present. I thought I would want to argue with the detective but when later during his break, he casually yet firmly bombarded me with questions like "<b>Why are you pursuing this case now?</b>" and "<b>Rape and sexual assault cases are hard to prove without evidence</b>" whatever response came out of my mouth sounded like one from a whiny child. I knew his questions were rational (and cold), but my heart was still heavy. When I saw the survivor smoking and talking with the detective before the interrogation, I could not tell whether she had resigned to status quo or if she was really okay with <b>these so-called upholders of justice, nary a drop of humanity but reeking with bureaucracy.</b><br />
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홀로는 법정에서 유효없는 진술서, 오늘 이렇게 남들과 공유하고 내가 치유 받을 수 있게 해준 하나의 공감대가 됐다.<br />
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Below is a statement that holds no individual validity in the justice system, has now become a medium for me to share with other and begin healing for myself.<br />
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*이하 진술서는 독자들을 위해 편집된 내용들이 있습니다. The statement below has been slightly edited for reader discretion.<br />
<b>이명현 (23)</b><br />
<b>Chloe Lee Myung Hyun (23)</b><br />
2012년 6월 말 주말에 친구 M씨와 함께 이태원 한 라운지에서 술을 마시며 같이 시간을 보내고 있었다. 라운지는 지인들이 많은 단골집이라 자주 마주치는 친구들이 많다. 나도 마찬가지로 자주 간다.이날 항상 그렇듯이 오랫동안 알고 지낸 C씨가 있어 인사 차원으로 포옹을 하고 간단한 대화를 했다. 그날 저녁 M씨와 주로 대화를 나누거나 춤을 췄다. C씨도 M씨랑 잘 아는 사이라 셋이서 지나가면서 대화를 하기도 했다. 약 새벽 4시(시간은 정확하지 않지만 늦은 시간이었다) C랑 대화를 하고 있었는데 그가 나에게 자기 집에 가자고 했다. 그의 어감도 그랬고 단둘이 그의 집에 가는 것은 어색해 나는 그건 아닌 것 같다고 대답했다. 오랫동안 알고 지낸 사이인데도 나의 방어적인 태도에 어이 없듯이 그는 “나 너한테 아무것도 안 할 거 알잖아”라고 했다. 나는 여러 차례 단호하지만 미소 지으면서 거절을 했다. 이때 그는 “그냥 집에 여성의 기운이 좀 있었으면 좋겠다”라며 설득하려고 애를 썼다.<br />
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On the last weekend of June 2012, I was hanging out with my friend M, at a lounge in Itaewon. Many of my friends went there and I was a regular myself. As always, another regular C, was there at the lounge and we hugged, as a way of greeting each other. For the rest of the night, I was mostly either talking or dancing with M. C and M know each other well so we would break or carry spontaneous conversations amongst the three of us. Around 4am(I am unsure of the exact time but it was late), I was talking to C and he suggested that I come over to his place. His tone of voice was suggestive and going to his house alone would be awkward for me so I told him no. He must have sensed my hesitation and thought it funny since we have known each other for a long time, so he said, "You know I am not going to do anything to you." I declined multiple times, in a firm tone but with a smile. He later added, "I just want some female energy in the house."<br />
처음 4~5년 전 시 공연(모임)에서 만난 사이로 오래 전부터 재능 있는 친구라고 여겼고 대학생 시절 영자잡지에 기고자로 일을 했을 때도 그의 인터뷰 기사를 쓰기도 했지만 진실성이 없고 여자들에게 시시덕거리는 모습을 많이 봐와 개인적으로는 어울리지 않았으며 파티나 공공장소에서 보면 인사하는 정도였다. 나는 그가 계속 자신의 집에서 놀자고 하는 질문에 의심하는 태도로 그에게 되물었지만 밤이 늦어지자 시끄러운 라운지 보다는 조용한 집이 좋다는 생각에 M에게 셋이 같이 가자고 내가 제안을 했다. 우린 늦은 시간 그의 집으로 나섰다. 자기 집이 바로 옆이라며 우리 둘을 안내해줬다.<br />
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We first met about 5 years ago in a spoken word event and I always thought he was talented. I even pitched an idea to do an interview on him during my years in university as a contributing writer for a magazine. However, I always felt that he lacked sincerity and always saw him as a skirt-chaser so I never tried to get to know him any better than our acquaintance which obliged us to merely acknowledge each other in public. I was dubious about his request to hang out at his place, but as the night wore on, I was leaning towards being in a quiet house rather than a noisy lounge so I asked M to come along with us. The three of us headed to his place. He guided the two of us to his place.<br />
셋중 난 문앞에 먼저 들어섰는데 이때 C는 나의 엉덩이를 잡았다. 나는 “야!(Hey!)”라고 하자 그는 미안하다고 웃으며 넘겼다. 그리고 M과 C, 그리고 나는 그의 소파에서 편하게 앉아 대화를 나눴다. 그는 그의 ipad로 전 여자친구 사진, 파출부 아줌마가 만들어준 요리 등을 보여주며 편하게 대화를 했다. 나는 소파 가장자리에 앉아 있었고 C랑은 접촉이 불가능한 위치에서 M의 어깨에 기대고 있었다.<br />
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I was the first to get to his front door and when C got closer, he grabbed my butt. When I yelled, "Hey!", he laughed and said sorry. Soon, M, C, and I were hanging out on his couch, talking. He showed us pictures of his ex-girlfriend and the food his maid cooked him on his iPad. I was sitting on the opposite end of the sofa from him and leaning against M's shoulder.<br />
술 기운에 몸이 무거워지고 아침에 가까운 시간이 되자 졸음이 밀려왔다. 나는 “얘들아, 나 그냥 여기서 잔다”라고 전했다. 이미 눈을 감고 있는 나에게 C는 “그냥 내 방에서 자. 우린 여기서 놀다가 잘게”라고 나에게 그의 방 안에 있는 침대를 양보해줬다. 나는 “고마워.”라고 하고 그의 방에 들어가 침대에 누워 깊은 잠에 빠졌다.<br />
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My body felt heavier from all the drinking at the lounge and I could feel morning getting closer. I hollered amidst their silence, "Guys, I'm just gonna sleep on the couch", while still leaning on M's shoulder. When my eyes were already closed, C said, "Go sleep in my room. Me and M will chill here and sleep on the couch." and gave up his bed for me. I trotted into his bedroom and said "Appreciate it" and fell into a deep sleep.<br />
시간이 얼마나 지났는지는 기억이 나지 않는다.<br />
I don't remember how much time has passed.<br />
참고로 난 이날 소매가 없는 점슈트를 입고 있어 브래지어를 안 입은체 옷안에는 팬티만 입고 있었다.<br />
For the record, I was wearing a sleevless jumpsuit with no brassiere and panties underneath my clothes that night.<br />
점슈트가 단번에 벗겨지는 강력한 힘에 눈을 반사적으로 뜨게 됐다. C가 침대 옆에 앉아 있었다. 나는 그에게 “너 지금 뭐 하는 짓이야?”라고 하자 그는 “나 좀 안아줘”라고 반복적으로 애원을 했다. 그리고 체위를 바꿔 내 몸을 눌러 나에게 키스를 하고 가슴을 빨았다. 이번에 나는 그의 눈을 뚫어지게 보며 “너 지금 뭐 하는 짓이야?”라고 단호하게 묻자 그는 계속 안아달라고 반복적으로 “제발”이라고 했다. 난 “옷은 왜 벗기는 건데?그만 해. 하지마.”라고 말했다. 그는 나에게 키스를 하자 나는 그를 밀쳤다. 그는 이어 나의 가슴을 빨고 팬티를 벗겼다. 그는 나의 아랫도리를 문질렀다. 내가 “C, 하지마. 하지마”라고 하며 그의 팔을 밀자 그는 자신의 바지를 벗고 성기를 꺼내며 “안 집어 넣을게. 그냥 좀 문지르게 해줘”라고 여러 차례 말했다. 난 “싫어”라고 하며 그의 여자친구의 이름(개인적으로 그녀랑은 더 올래 알고 지낸 사이다)을 대며 그녀에게 무슨 짓을 하는 거냐고 했다. 그는 그녀는 미국에 있다고 둘러댔다. 그는 그의 성기를 나의 아랫도리에 대며 그의 몸으로 나를 눌러 성기를 집어넣으려고 했다. 내가 “너 계속하면 나 진짜 소리 지른다”라고 협박했다. 그는 내 몸을 누르고 있는 채로 날 보고 “뭐라고 할건데, 강간?”라며 날 비웃었다. 난 그를 다시 밀자 그는 “알았어. 그냥 옆에 누워 있을게.”라고 하며 이불을 다시 끌어올렸다. 난 그에게 몸을 돌려 팬티와 점슈트를 다시 입으려고 하자 그는 옷을 못 입게 했다. 난 또 그에게 “그만해 하지마 C”라고 하자 그는 다시 나의 몸에 손을 대기 시작했다. 나는 옷을 입으려고 계속 저항하고 그는 계속 벗기려고 했다.<br />
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I instantly opened my eyes when I felt a strong force pulling off my jumpsuit. C was sitting on the bed. "What the fuck are you doing?" I yelled.<br />
"Just hold me," he pleaded. He got on top of me and kissed me, and sucked on my breasts.<br />
This time, I looked into his eyes, searching for an answer, saying, "What the fuck are you doing.", in a calm tone.<br />
He kept saying please, please. Please, please just hold me.<br />
"Why are you taking my clothes off? Stop. Quit it."<br />
He forced his lips on mine and I pushed his face away. He then went below to suck my breasts and take my panties off. He rubbed my vagina.<br />
I pleaded, "Quit it. Quit it, C" and peeled his arm away.<br />
He continued to take his pants off and pulled his penis out and said, in a crazed state, "I won't put it in, just let me rub it."<br />
"No!" I shouted. I mentioned his girlfriend, whom I knew of longer than he and asked what he is doing to her. He dismissed it by saying she was in the US. He rubbed his penis against my groin area and pressed his body against mine and tried to penetrate. "If you do it, I am going to scream,"I threatened.<br />
"What are you gonna scream, rape?" He scoffed and laughed. I pushed him off again and he said, "Ok ok, I'll just sleep next to you." and pulled the covers over the both of us. I turned my body against his and was putting my clothes back on but he stopped me. I repeated, "Stop, quit it, C" but he started groping me all over again. I kept struggling to put my clothes back on while he kept preventing me from doing so.<br />
때마침 이때 그의 다른 친구가 앞문을 여는 소리가 들려왔다. 나는 벗겨진 옷을 입자 그는 “쉬!조용히 해야 돼!”라고 했지만 그 틈을 타 옷을 제대로 입고 방 문을 열어 거실로 나섰다. 알고 보니 내가 알고 있었던 지인이었고 다같이 대화를 나누다가 C는 뒤늦게 나왔다. 넷이서 아무 일도 없었듯이 얘기를 나누기 시작했다.<br />
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While I was struggling in bed, I heard a friend of his coming into the house through the front door. I quickly got dressed and he said, "Shhh! You have to be quiet" but I took the opportunity to properly dress myself and leave the bedroom. At the living room was another acquaintance and we sat down together on the couch and were talking. C came out of the room later. The four of us talked like nothing ever happened.<br />
그 후 그 친구는 아침 7시경에 떠났고 나는 M이랑C 사이에 앉게 됐다. 그는 M이 있는 앞에서 한 번씩 나의 허벅지에 손을 댔다. 그 후 Michael은 담배를 피러 나갔는데 그 때 C는 나의 점슈트를 가슴까지 내려 가슴을 빨았다. 나는 “하지마”이라고 하고 옷을 다시 올렸는데 M은 밖에서 우리가 장난치는 줄 알고 창문 넘어“나 여기 있어”라고 했다. C는 “응, 알았어!(Ok!)”라며 다시 나의 가슴을 가지고 웃으면서 장난을 쳤다. 나는 몸을 움직여 하지 말라고 했다. M이 또 한번 “나 아직도 여기 있어”라고 했다. 그리고 한 몇 분 후 M 들어왔다. 아침 8시30분, 몸이 깨기 시작하자 나는 집에 간다고 했다. M도 같이 간다고 하고 우린 C의 집을 나섰다.<br />
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Later on, the friend who came in the morning left around 7am and it was just me, M, and C again. C got even more ballsy and even touched my thigh in front of M. Later, when M went outside for a smoke by the front door, C pulled my jumpsuit down and sucked my breast ouf of nowhere. I yelled, "Stop it!" and pulled my jumpsuit back up. M thought we were playing around and yelled from outside, "I'm here!", and C replied, "Ok!", chuckling, but he did it again. I shifted even further away from him and told him to stop. M repeated, "I'm still here!" and a few minutes later came back into the house. Around 8:30am, I was sobering up and announced I wanted to leave. M said he would leave too and we left C's house together.<br />
그리고는 그날 오후 그에게서 카카오톡 메세지가 왔다.<br />
That afternoon, a Kakao message from him arrived.<br />
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(1)http://www.oneinfourusa.org/statistics.phpAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-68482755354945234112013-10-25T23:32:00.003+09:002013-10-25T23:32:28.780+09:00Event: Gwangju, Hollaback! Korea Info Table at International Community Day, Oct. 26, 11-5PM, World Cup StadiumOn Saturday, Oct. 26 Hollaback! Korea, a project to address street (sexual) harassment in Korea will hold their first public outreach event. They will share a table with The Vagina Monologues (TVM) at the Gwangju International Community Day. <div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-37280170195299129932013-10-25T23:25:00.005+09:002013-10-25T23:25:58.190+09:00Event: 일일카페 한국미혼모가족협회, KUMFA Pop-up Cafe, Seoul, Oct. 26, 12-10PM, 경복궁역 Gyeongbokgung Station10월 26일 오후 12시부터 10시까지 일일카페합니다. 장소는 경복궁역 (3호선, 4번출구) 근처입니다. 수익금은 한국미혼모가족협회 사단법인설립 벽돌쌓기에 기부됩니다. 티켓문의는 사무국 02-2682-3376/ 휴대폰 010-8993-9905 참석하기 어렵지만 기부하고 싶으신 분: 국민은행 547801-04-053780 (Kookmin Bank) 한국미혼모가족협회 많은 관심을 부탁드립니다~!<br />
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Korean Unwed Mothers' Families Association will host a pop-up cafe fundraiser on October 26th from 12pm (noon) to 10pm at "Dam" cafe near Gyeongbokgung Station (line 3, exit 4, see map). All proceeds will go to KUMFA. You can buy tickets in 10,000 won increments and exchange them for food. Ticket inquiries (Eng/Kor) 010-4534-1553. If you can't attend but still want to donate to KUMFA (in Korea): 국민은행 547801-04-053780 (Kookmin Bank) 한국미혼모가족협회 or via paypal (email: kumfa.volunteer@gmail.com)<br />
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<span class="aBn" data-term="goog_522878180" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; font-family: 돋움; font-size: 13.333333969116211px; line-height: 21.111112594604492px; position: relative; top: -2px; z-index: 0;" tabindex="0"><span class="aQJ" style="position: relative; top: 2px; z-index: -1;"><br /></span></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-7326373767212202792013-10-15T14:29:00.002+09:002013-11-07T11:14:24.127+09:00Testify, PART I: The Morning After [Guest Post]<span style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Korean Gender Café partners with guest blogger Chloe Lee Myunghyun, an organizer of <a href="https://www.facebook.com/DisruptiveVoices">Disruptive Voices</a>, who shares her story in the first of a three part series about sexual assault, police reporting and dating after assault. Thank you to our sisters organizing Disruptive Voices for opening up dialog for survivors and to spread awareness about sexual violence. Please also read <a href="http://koreangendercafe.blogspot.kr/2013/10/part-ii-testimony.html">Part II: Latent Rapists</a> and <a href="http://koreangendercafe.blogspot.kr/2013/11/testify-part-iii-sex-after-sexual.html">Part III: Sex After Sexual Assault 성폭행 후의 성생활</a>.</span><br />
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<b>PART I: The Morning After </b><br />
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<i>어제 쿨하게 대해줘서 고마워 </i><br />
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<i>Thanks for being cool about last night.</i><br />
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<i>내가 어제 있었던 일에 대해 태연하다고 생각하지마.</i><br />
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<i>Don't think that I am cool with it.</i><br />
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<i>미안.</i><br />
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<i>Sorry</i><br />
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<i>미안</i><br />
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<i>I am sorry.</i><br />
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<i>너무 미안해.</i><br />
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<i>I am so sorry.</i><br />
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<i>진심으로 사과할께.</i><br />
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<i>I apologize.</i><br />
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난 그 일 이후 그냥 아무일도 없었다는 듯이 그날의 일을 깊숙히 묻어버렸다. 심지어 그 일 이후 그가 내 앞에서 무릎꿇고 용서해달라고 했을때도, 그가 나를 우연히 마주칠때마다 미안하다고 계속 얘기할때면은 "얘 왜 이러냐. 그 정도로 심각하건 않인데"라고 내 자신에게 강해야된다고 최면을 걸었던 것 같다. 그리고는 8개월이 지났다. 2013년 2월 중, 나의 페이스북 계정으로 아는 친구가 메세지를 보내왔다. 내용은 현재 그와 관련된 4명의 성추행 및 성폭행 피해자가 밝혀졌다며 더 많은 피해자들의 증언이 필요하다는 단체 메세지였다. 그 순간 충격과 역겨움은 말로 표현할 수도 없다. 이런 생각이 잘못됐을 수도 있지만 한편으로는 일종의 안도감도 느꼈다. 내가 <b>혼자가 아니라는 안도감</b>. 내가 <b>당했던 일에 대한 명분</b>이 생긴것만 같았다.<br />
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I buried everything that happened that night, in a back burner somewhere and I wanted it to disappear. Even when he got on his knees in public to ask for forgiveness, and every time he apologized when he saw me. I would tell myself, "What the fuck is his problem? It's not that serious." Maybe it was my way of defending my deep-seated denial. And then 8 months passed. February of 2013, I received a message from a friend, asking for victims of my perpetrator to come forward, as there were already 4 other victims from sexual harassment to rape. The moment I received the message, I was sick to my stomach. But I also felt a sense of relief. Maybe it isn't the most politically correct thing, but a sense of relief knowing that <b>I wasn't the only one</b>. I <b>found cause</b>, a type of <b>legitimacy</b>, if you will, about what happened to me.<br />
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한편 난 위험한 논리로 자학했다. 내가 당한게 성추행 또는 성폭행이라면, 난 왜 싸우지 않았을까? 즉, 그를 때리지 않은게 내 탓이며 당시 격렬한 몸싸움이 없었기에 성폭행이 아니다. 그러나 사실 이런 논리는 1) <b>성폭행 또는 추행의 형태 대한 고정관념</b> 2) "______을 (안)했기에 내 탓이다"라는 사고는 <b>피해자 책임전가</b>로 피해자들이 흔히 시달리는 전형적인 문제들이다.<br />
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On the other hand, I was torturing myself with a self-created, twisted logic. If what happened to me was sexual assault, why didn't I fight him? If I didn't hit him to defend myself, it is my fault and therefore it is not sexual assault. But this flawed logic is what a lot of survivors suffer from. It is flawed because it 1) reinforces a <b>stereotype that there is only one form of sexual assault and/or rape</b> 2) is a typical case of <b>victim blaming</b>: "Because I did (not) ________, it is my fault."<br />
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1주일동안 망설이며 이 사건과 가해자를 아는 가까운 친구들 2명에게 조언을 구했다. 이중 한 명은 처음 내 일을 들었을때 자신의 태도에 대해 한참 뒤 또 다시 물었고 내가 서운해했다면 미안하다며 용서를 구했다. 그 전엔 또 그 똑같은 얘에게 당한 피해자 중 한명이 자신의 신분을 밝히기도 했다. 이 모든 것이 나에게는 신호였다. 그러나 가장 중요한 이유는 나의 이야기를 공유함으로써 내 자신을 용서하고 싶었다. 그토록 오랫동안 여성들에게 돌려주고 공헌하고 싶다며 대학시절 읽은 여성학 서적과 쓰고 공연한 여성을 위한 스포큰 워드(spoken word) 시, 머리와 마음은 사회에게 바친다고 생각했지만 당장 내 안에 있는 혼란도 다스리지 못했으며, 강하다고 생각했던 자신이 강간 앞에서 주먹 하나 못 날렸다. 가해자는 평상시 아는 놈이라는 확률이 높다는 통계도 알고 있었으면서 말이다. 왜 안 싸웠지. 나도 원했나? 방 밖에 있었던 친구가 방문을 부스고 도와줄거라고 생각했나? 왜 목에서 피토할 정도로 소리지르지 않았을까.<br />
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하지마. 너 지금 뭐하는 거야. 왜그래? 여자친구한테 미안하지도 않니? 그만해. 싫어. 그만하라고. 계속하면 소리지를 꺼야.<br />
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뭐라고 할건데. 강간? 그는 비아냥거렸다.<br />
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나는 이 사건 수사에 앞장서고 있었던 그녀에게 내 이야기를 들려주며 우린 서로 가까워졌다. 그녀는 사실 이미 다른 생존자들과 주기적인 모임을 가졌고 구체적인 법적 대응도 구상하고 있었다. 우린 결국 형사들에게 단체 진술서를 작성해 제출하기로 했다. D-데이가 가까워지자 예상보다는 증인 갯수가 줄었지만(중도포기하거나 법적 대응을 거부한 이들도 있었다) 나는 영-한 진술서를 작성하고 그녀앞에서 지문도장도 찍고 회사로 돌아갔다. 홀로 경찰서에 그녀를 보내는 것이 걸리긴 했지만 마음만큼은 그녀와 함께했다.<br />
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I mulled over my options for about a week, asking advice from two close friends who knew the perpetrator and knew about my story. One friend even asked me about how he reacted when he first heard about my story and asked for forgiveness if his response upset me. On top of that, one of the survivors, who was an acquaintance came forward. These were signs. Most importantly, by sharing my story, I wanted to start being able to forgive myself. All these years, I prided myself in one day hoping to contribute and give back to women, I mistakenly thought that I have offered my heart and mind to the cause after all that reading on feminism and performing spoken word about women, but yet could not even sling a punch in the face of rape. Why didn’t I put up a better fight? Did I want it? Was I fantasizing that my friend outside the door would break open the door and save me? Why didn’t I scream till my throat bled?<br />
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Stop. What the hell are you doing? What’s wrong with you? What about your girlfriend? Quit it. No. Stop. If you continue I am going to scream.<br />
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What are you gonna say, rape? He scoffed, amused.<br />
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I eventually told the acquaintance my story and we became friends. She had already started regular meetings with the other survivors and was planning to take legal action. In the end we ended up with lesser witnesses (since some of them pulled out or said no to taking legal action), but we still had a group complaint. I gave her my Korean-English testimony and put my fingerprints on it. Unfortunately I could not join her to go to the police station due to work but my spirit was with her.<br />
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2일간 감감무소식이었던 그녀에게 연락을 했다. 홀로 경찰서에 찾아간 그녀가 당한 일도 일이지만(그일은 그녀의 이야기임으로 내 이야기에서는 삼가하겠다) 결론적으로 형사의 지시에 따르면 우린 각자 진술서를 제출하고 직접 경찰서에 찾아가야 한다고 했다. 나는 며칠 후 퇴근길에 경찰서를 찾아가려고 그녀가 준 형사의 번호로 전화를 걸었다.<br />
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Two days passed. I did not hear from her so I called her instead. She went through a hell of an ordeal with the detectives (since that story belongs to her I will not go into detail), and was told that all the witnesses had to submit individual complaints and hand them directly to the detectives themselves. A few days later, I called the detective she was working with, to ask if I could go to the police station to submit my complaint.<br />
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"안녕하세요, 제 친구가 형사님 전화번호를 전달해줬는데요, 그녀가 며칠 전에 각자 진술서를 직접 제출해야 한다고 들어서요. 오늘 저녁에 직접 형사님 뵈러 찾아갈 생각이었습니다."<br />
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"Hi, my friend gave me your number. She said we had to submit our complaint ourselves. I was wondering if I could go see you tonight at the station."<br />
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"어떤 사건때문에 그러시는거죠?"<br />
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"Which case are we talking about?"<br />
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"아..그 며칠 전에 경찰서에 찾아간 친구인데...성폭행..."<br />
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"Oh, its regarding the rape...my friend went to the station a few days ago."<br />
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"그럼 그쪽도 같은 일을 당했나요?"<br />
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"Did you experience the same thing(rape)?"<br />
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"같은건 아니지만 특별법에 의해 해당되는 건이라고 들었습니다."<br />
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"Well, not exactly the same(rape), but I hear it is considered rape with the new sexual crime clause."<br />
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"정확히 무슨 일이 있었던거죠?"<br />
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"What happened exactly?"<br />
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"...아...지금 버스 안이라 말씀드리긴 조금..."<br />
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"Oh..I'm on the bus right now. I don't really feel comfortable talking about it."<br />
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"아 네, 지금 10시가 다되서 나가봐야할 시간인데.."<br />
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"Ah yes. It's almost 10pm, I have to head out soon..."<br />
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"그럼 제가 언제 가는게 편하세요? 전 낮에는 출근해야되서요.."<br />
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"Oh, then when should I go? I work during the day."<br />
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"실례지만 그 일이 언제 있었던 일인가요?"<br />
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"I'm sorry but when did it happen to you?"<br />
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"작년 6월이요."<br />
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"June of last year."<br />
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"작년 6월?"<br />
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"June of last year?"<br />
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"네."<br />
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"Yes."<br />
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<b>"성폭행 공소시효는 6개월인건 알고 계시죠?"</b><br />
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<b>"You know that the statute of limitations for sexual assault is 6 months, right?"</b><br />
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"아.."<br />
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"Oh..."<br />
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<b>"그런건 경찰서 오기전에 인터넷에서 좀 읽고 오세요."</b><br />
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<b>"Read up on that kind of stuff on the internet before you come to the police station."</b><br />
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"...."<br />
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그후로 그가 전화를 끊었는지 아님 뭐라고 했는지 기억나지 않는다. 그냥 갑자기 급히 버스에서 내리고 싶었고 그녀에게 달려가고 싶었다. 나는 삼각지역 근처에서 버스에서 내린 후 그녀에게 여러번의 시도 끝에 통화를 했다. 그녀도 너무 분노하고 있었던 상태였고 자세한 일은 그녀의 집으로 가서 얘기하기로 했다.<br />
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I don't remember if he hung up or he continued talking. I just really needed to get off the bus that moment and run to her. I got off the bus near Samgakji station and called her several times to no avail. She finally picked up. She was raving mad from her own drama and mine, and especially about the statute of limitations. We agreed to get into details when I got to her place.<br />
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지하철로 내려가 교통카드를 찍으려고 걸어가고 있었는데 갑자기 시야가 흐려지면서 심한 빈혈 현상이 찾아왔다. 눈가가 뜨거워지기 시작했다. 마음같아선 역 안에서 소리지르고 주저앉아 엿같은 법과 그 형사를 욕하고 싶었다. 그 순간만큼은 남이 날 어떻게 생각하든 이성을 참을수가 없었다. 나는 차 안에서도 그녀와 전화를 끊지 않은체 욕설을 퍼부었다. 그리고는 목도리 뒤에 숨어 내려오는 눈물을 주저할 수 없었다.<br />
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I went down the subway station(still saving pennies at that moment in time), and tried to scan my transportation card but my vision became blurry and I got dizzy. My eyes were brimming with hot tears. I wanted to collapse on the floor and curse the fucked-up justice system and the nonchalant detective. I could care less about the strangers in the station at that moment. I stayed on the phone with her on the train and cursed belligerently. After mouthing off, I hid behind my winter scarf as I cried uncontrollably.<br />
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내가 역에서 내리자 그녀는 걸려오는 전화가 있다며 나와 전화를 끊은 후 나는 곧바로 아버지에게 연락을 했다. 이 세상에서 나를 가장 사랑해주고 숨기는 것 없이 얘기하는 사이인 아버지. 아버지라면 나와 같이 욕하겠지. 전화했다. 그러나 그는 전혀 예상치 못한 반응을 보였다. 형사와 했던 대화를 그에게 전하자 그는 나에게 "그냥 잊어버려"라며 "뭐 그런걸 가지고 그래"등 사소한 일로 치부했다. 생존자들 모임으로 간다고 하자 그는 갑자기 나에게 "네가 왜 그런데를 가!", "<b>네가 왜 피해자야</b>"등 나에게 윽박지르기까지 했다. 난 뭐라고 대답했지? 아, 맞다. <b>딸이 피해자라고 생각하고 싶지 않겠지만 피해자라고</b>.<br />
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When I got off the train she had an incoming call so I had to hang up. I called my dad immediately. The one person that loves me the most in the world, and hid nothing from each other. We were tight. I knew my dad would curse with me. I dialed his number and he picked up. But his response came from the left field. All he could manage to say was "Just forget about it", "Why are you so upset about something like this?" Furthermore, when I told him I was attending the survivors group meeting, he turned on me and yelled over the phone, "Why would you go to such a place?", "<b>Why are you a survivor?</b>". What did I say in response.... ah yes, I said <b>you might not want to believe your daughter's a victim but she is</b>. Amongst other things.<br />
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<b>넌 그날 아무일 없었다며. But you said nothing happened that night.</b><br />
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마음같아선 자세히 말씀드리고 싶었다. 그가 날 어떻게 <b>모욕</b>하고, <b>무시</b>하고, <b>교묘하게 다뤘는지</b>. 근데 아버지는 남성중심 사회인 한국에서 태어나고 자란 중년 남성이고, 나를 혼내는 방식과 그의 언어가 그것을 반영했다. <br />
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From the bottom of my heart, I wanted to tell him in detail. I wanted to tell him how the perpetrator <b>humiliated</b>, <b>ignored</b>, and <b>manipulated </b>me. But my father was born and raised in Korea, a country that is still rooted in male-centric norms and his way of talking to me and his language reflected that.<br />
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그날 저녁 나는 그녀와 단둘이 주방 식탁에서 와인을 마시며 마음을 털어놓았다. 그리고 내가 겪었던 일뿐만 아니라 이 사건으로 인한 오해와 사회적 모순, 나의 갈등을 속속히 이해하는 그녀와 같은 존재가 있어서 너무 고마웠다. <b>자매애</b>.<br />
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That night, I sat on the kitchen table with her and poured out my heart. And I was grateful. Grateful for an existence like her that understood not only what happened to me but the intricate aspects and societal contradictions that were inextricably linked with sexual assault. <b>Sisterhood</b>.<br />
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"Through our last talk, we reached a lot of important points of realization, reflection, learning, and un-learning~ This time around, we'd like to focus on "dating". We all have our experiences that have cultivated us to be the womyn we are today and presently. We want to open up a space to talk about the issues that surround dating. From dating a neighbor, an expat, dating abroad, cultural differences with dating~ all of it. </blockquote>
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We hope to see you ladies here~ let's continue to empower, share, and progress! </blockquote>
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There will be complementary tea available and wine/beer for purchase!!"</blockquote>
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17291528540213251189noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4428605909207237831.post-57580936759638031822013-10-01T00:54:00.002+09:002013-10-01T00:55:23.742+09:00Extended Rebuttal: Inflated Assumption that Sex Workers in Korea Earn “higher than the average Korean”<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;">
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at Korea Gender Café we attempt to present information, data and translations
that add to discussion of gender issues in Korean society because we hope to
spur discussion. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;">Yesterday <a href="http://www.koreabang.com/2013/stories/rebuttal-why-korea-is-ranked-108th-in-gender-equality.html">we submitted a rebuttal </a>piece to <a href="http://www.koreabang.com/2013/stories/disbelief-as-korea-is-ranked-108th-in-global-gender-equality.html">koreaBANG’stranslation “Disbelief as Korea is Ranked 108th in Global Gender Equality”</a> that broke down a few methodological flaws in Dr. Kang’s data analysis. Due to
space constraints we were unable to respond point-by-point to many of his
opinionated assertions. In this post we’d like to zero in on one of the
problematic opinions and attitudes he brought into the debate about gender
inequality: that the exclusion of the sex industry from workforce participation
data inflates the inequality between men and women.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Kang
writes,</span></div>
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<a href="http://www.koreabang.com/2013/stories/disbelief-as-korea-is-ranked-108th-in-global-gender-equality.html">“Does the misinterpreted data about socioeconomic discrimination in fact imply discrimination against men? </a></blockquote>
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<a href="http://www.koreabang.com/2013/stories/disbelief-as-korea-is-ranked-108th-in-global-gender-equality.html">There are also many problems with the data commonly used to claim sexualdiscrimination against women within Korea. The popular story is that women arebeing discriminated against, as shown by the big gender gap in employment rateand income. However, we need to take a closer look. In fact, the gender gap in employment rate and income is exaggerated in Korea.Among OECD countries, only Korea and Slovenia have made the sex trade completely illegal. MOGEF estimated that there might be 140~270k or a higher number of female sex workers in Korea. Sex workers who earn more than the average worker are exempted from the Korean income statistics while othercountries include them. This partly contributes to the income gap that appearswider on paper than it really is.</a> </blockquote>
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<a href="http://www.koreabang.com/2013/stories/disbelief-as-korea-is-ranked-108th-in-global-gender-equality.html">Do they turn a blind eye to this for the sexual discrimination claims?” </a></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><a href="http://www.koreabang.com/2013/stories/rebuttal-why-korea-is-ranked-108th-in-gender-equality.html">“Dr.Kang points out human rights violations against women in other countries, butwe can point to sexual violence and human rights violations in every country.That is not the purpose of these indices. We agree that it is problematic thatgender inequality indexes do not adequately reflect violence against women orsexual violence. We disagree with Dr. Kang’s outward looking criticism andencourage discussion of sexual violence in Korea.” </a></span></blockquote>
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we want to discuss human rights violations in South Korea, we could pay close
attention to the upcoming Constitution Court ruling on the 2004 Act to Prevent
Sex Trafficking and Prohibit Prostitution.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>First</b>,
sex work is omitted from income statistics, as is drug trade, gang/mafia
membership and other illegal industries in which we may find both women and men
employed. Rather than claiming that its exclusion is an conspiracy to "turn a blind eye" and that it implies "discrimination against men" we find this to be a more persuasive explanation. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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this assumption that sex work earns high incomes likely ignores workplace conditions,
rental fees, the lack of pension, income inconsistencies, associated costs, and
may obscure all those that profit from the work by taking a portion of fees, etc. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>Third</b>,
Dr. Kang does not tell us how many men are employed as sex workers, but some
could argue that purchasing the right to sexual use of another’s body in a sex
industry with “140~270k or a higher number of female sex workers” in and of
itself could be indicative of gender inequality. If the working population is that high while the working population is low in other industries, it suggests there is a segregation of women into a few industries. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>Fourth</b>,
others could argue that Dr. Kang ignores men employed in the sex industry or
who act as employers of female sex workers. Meanwhile <a href="http://mbn.mk.co.kr/pages/news/newsView.php?news_seq_no=1441227">MBN News contributes a stigmatizing tone </a>toward LGBTQ sex workers. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">But
what we would really like to argue about -- and the reason we highly anticipate the
above mentioned Constitutional Court ruling -- is the<b> persistent social
stigmatization of sex workers and violation of sex worker's human rights</b> in police crackdown
and incarceration. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>First</b>,
Dr. Kang never mentions that male clients are only sometimes sent to “<a href="http://english.hani.co.kr/arti/english_edition/e_national/319186.html">John school</a>” while female sex workers pay steep fines and face up to 2 years of
mandatory re-education or prison. This is one more example of gender inequality
in sentencing. Dr. Kang doesn’t highlight those aspects of policy that actually
exist, and he presents no evidence to support his assertions. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>Second</b>,
sex workers in Korea report serious human rights violations as a consequence of
the current legal regime. Sex workers report swallowing condoms because simply
walking with a condom is used by the police as evidence against a sex worker.
The safety and health implications are rather obvious, but we urge you to read
the UNDP report "Sex Work and the Law in Asia and the Pacific: Laws, HIV
and human rights in the context of sex work."<a href="file:///C:/Users/MLJones/Desktop/Korean%20Gender%20Caf%C3%A9%20rebuttal%20to%20Kang%20disbelief%20gender%20equality%20EXTENDED%20sex%20work.docx#_ftn1" name="_ftnref1" title=""><span class="MsoFootnoteReference"><!--[if !supportFootnotes]--><span class="MsoFootnoteReference"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">[1]</span></span><!--[endif]--></span></a> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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heavy stigmatization of females in the sex industry means that even if there
were not criminal penalties, gender inequality in sentencing and health perils
associated with an aggressive police crackdown, workers are marginalized
socially. We highly recommend Katherine Moon’s research for further reading on
the history of segregated sex workers near military bases.<a href="file:///C:/Users/MLJones/Desktop/Korean%20Gender%20Caf%C3%A9%20rebuttal%20to%20Kang%20disbelief%20gender%20equality%20EXTENDED%20sex%20work.docx#_ftn2" name="_ftnref2" title=""><span class="MsoFootnoteReference"><!--[if !supportFootnotes]--><span class="MsoFootnoteReference"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">[2]</span></span><!--[endif]--></span></a> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">My ongoing
research examines the relationship between the 2004 law, court sentencing and
gender in Korean society. In the coming months and after publication, I look
forward to sharing additional information with our readers. In the meantime, we
highly recommend reading posts by sex worker’s rights NGO <a href="http://ggsexworker.org/">Giant Girls</a>, </span><a href="https://twitter.com/sexwork_bot"><span lang="KO" style="font-family: "Malgun Gothic","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Helvetica; mso-fareast-font-family: "Malgun Gothic"; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">성노동</span><span lang="KO" style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"> </span><span lang="KO" style="font-family: "Malgun Gothic","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Helvetica; mso-fareast-font-family: "Malgun Gothic"; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">이론</span><span lang="KO" style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"> </span><span lang="KO" style="font-family: "Malgun Gothic","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Helvetica; mso-fareast-font-family: "Malgun Gothic"; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">봇</span></a><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"> and
<a href="http://researchprojectkorea.wordpress.com/">Research Project Korea</a> for news. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Giant
Girls, Grant Application, Global Fund for Women, 2010.
https://grants.globalfundforwomen.org/GFWSearch/index.php?id=30551<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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